I met my Twin Flame in my early 30's just before meeting my now ex, who I believe, despite all that has transpired, was my soul mate. I can say now though, through reflection and wisdom, that this meeting of my twin, prior to the relationship with my ex, was all perfectly synchronized steps of destiny.
My ex and I met and fell in love quickly. We had a plethora of emotions even from early in the relationship, all of which were offering us both opportunities to look within. The fundamental form and “knowing” of love were with us, but as we both denied our healing, we were unconsciously forced to manoeuvre around the relationship that was building walls of “protection”. Of course, the walls were merely coping mechanisms that are a form of negligence or denial to look within. Over time, I was apprehensive to allow my Love to flow, and while I denied my own healing it was also difficult for me to feel Love within myself. Instead of finding my own Love, I thought I was not deserving. After 14 years and a zillion triggers that I overlooked, my Twin Flame returned as promised. I had no idea what a Twin Flame was, or that this was pre-ordained destiny.
I Believe we had made a soul contract before birth, in the void as I call it. This contract was for both of us to help one another find our connection again to source Love. I don't know why we had chosen to do this; I don't know why we didn't know our own love, but I do believe we accepted that we would be the catalyst for each other to find our love again.
If or when a Twin Flame returns, or shows up, depends entirely on the learning, and healing of the individual. The initial seemingly "random" meeting occurs so that if healing has not been initiated thus far, then the return is able to be activated. However, if healing has transpired, there may never be a need for follow through. Therefore, the mission is accomplished. The mission being the discovery of Love within.
So, 14 years into my relationship with my now ex, my twin returned on his mission to aid me. His mission was to remind me to find my love within. I too would help him to remember to discover his love and our unwavering bond of unconditional love for one another would enable us to complete the mission. However, the amusing part to all of this, is that neither one of us had any memory of our soul contract. We were only aware of this indescribable energy connection that existed between us. So, instead of fulfilling our mission, the unconscious states that we both lived, further distracted us and a confusing Love triangle morphed.