How to Find Love

I have for a long time believed that when only the greatest love of them all, “the one”, shows up, everything will workout just fine. Then I will have the prefect relationship and live happily ever after. And perhaps when the right partner shows up all the pieces in the puzzle will fall into the right place. Maybe I will feel that I have found my other half, my soul selected. But to tell you the true’s I have already thought that a number of times and then I have become disappointed when it turned out that were not the case. I also believed that my relationships were based on a feeling of deep love. I thought that we knew each other, that we were quit honest and authentic. Then I realized I was wrong. It wasn’t true love, it was terms and conditions, it was a lot of expectations and it all origin from fear. It was mine and others beliefs of how it should be and how it should feel. With time, I have learned that relationships require a lot of work, it requires us to meet one another fearlessly, with great trust and with great love and that we ourselves create opportunities for personal development and growth. And I have also learned that in life we often grow at different pace and it might not be that we should stay with one partner for the rest of our life. We all need relationships even if the meaning of them can be different for us. And I am absolute certain that we can become whole as we so often long for using the missing piece. But it is not the missing piece that makes us whole. It is I myself that makes me whole, using the missing piece in positive terms. There is nothing outside of me that can change what is within me. The love that I seek is within me. If I think someone else will make me whole, fill the void and give me all the love I need I am fooling myself. We are all entitled to perfect love. But we are looking for love in imperfect relationships with imperfect people. It leaves us frustrated, disappointed and with a sense of emptiness and a search for someone else. A search that rarely gives us what we need. Love is the greatest source that can put us in connection with everything and everyone. Love is what gives us the air under our wings. An intense and deep feeling towards anyone or anything but the quality of the love we get depends on how we really feel. Love is something we often dream about it’s our hearts deepest desire. We seek, we yearn, we want love but we miss very often that we need to start with our innermost. To feel loved, we need to love ourselves.