Out of My Minds
Conversations with My Higher Self
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“I’ve always felt like I had to take care of everything and everyone. I feel like I’ve always been there taking care of others and no one has ever taken care of me. That hurts. Apart from now being with my husband, it feels like that whatever happened, I was always on my own. I didn’t need to expect any help from anyone. It was my experience that I was never getting any help. It was my experience that no one ever would take care of me. I was always battling on my own. I had no support whatsoever. That’s painful, lonely, and exhausting.
“I know that my dad took care of me as much as he could. I also know my sister will always be there for me, but she’s overseas and also has been through bad times when I knew she needed all her energy for herself and her family.
“I also know that now that my daughters are older, they’ll take care of me as much I’ll take care of them. I have no doubts about that. Things have certainly changed, but it’s been a very hard time in the past.”
I understand, and I know that you’re hurt and tired of trying repeatedly, hoping that someone will be there for you as much as you’re there for others. Today, though, you’re in a very loving and caring relationship with someone who truly cares and does take care of you, and there are your daughters and sister too who love you very much, and they too will take care of you and have been taking care of you when you needed their support.
But here too, there’s something that you need to learn.
Something that’s really hard for you. Something that’s very understandable, though, considering your experiences in life. One of the things you need to learn is to ask for help!
“Oh, but I do ask for help.”
Really?
“Yes.”
Are you sure?
“What? Do you doubt me? I do ask for help. It’s just that I hardly ever receive any help.”
Really?
“Stop saying really! It’s annoying. I KNOW I ask for help.”
Yes, you do ask for help…sometimes…when it’s too late. And most of the times, you don’t really ask for what you really need.
“Oh, really?”
No need to get sarcastic again. See, again, you’re hearing something you don’t like. Do you understand why you hardly ever ask for help?
“No?”
I could say “really?” again, but instead I’ll help you a little bit, although you’re probably not going to like what you’re hearing. You hardly ever ask for help because you feel unworthy.
Did you hear that? Let me repeat that because it’s very important. You hardly ever ask for help because you feel unworthy!
“Hmmm. I don’t like what you’re suggesting, but if I’m honest, I’ll have to admit that you’re probably right. I probably did feel unworthy in the past. I think that has changed over time, but yes, there are still times that I feel unworthy. I definitely feel stupid to have to ask for help. It makes me feel like I’m not good enough. Well, I often feel like I’m not good enough. I know I’ve built up this cocoon of self-confidence, but, deep in my heart, I sometimes still feel that I’m not good enough. That’s the reason why I find it so hard to ask for help.”
You’re spot on there. And I know you think that you’re stupid for asking for help. But it’s caused by a pattern in your life and it really isn’t your fault. It has been created through different negative experiences in your life when you were told that you weren’t good enough.
We need to look at this a bit deeper to understand what has happened and to turn this feeling around in an appropriate self-confidence about who you are.
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About the Book
Maxima Miller has faced a host of adversity in her lifetime, but she has grown into a happy and strong person. In Out of My Minds, she offers a a unique autobiography in the form of a conversation between her physical mind and the spiritual mind, the higher self. This memoir narrates the story of her life, seamlessly blending Miller’s beliefs, dreams, and visions while providing directions for self-help. Miller tells how she’s lived an eventful existence and first started writing this book as a way to make sense of her own life. She chronicles events from her childhood, relationships, motherhood, work, and health but also extraordinary experiences, spirituality, religion, and the threat on her life. Out of My Minds shares how Miller has connected with her higher self through the written word. She tells how it has provided her with a tool to view her life events from a higher and healthier perspective, to cope with the plentiful challenges, and to just be happier.
About the Author
Maxima Miller earned a degree in business information systemss, speaks multiple languages, and is interested in the spiritual, the supernatural, and self-development,. She is an author, coach, trainer, entrepreneur, designer, and business analyst. Miller grew up in the Netherlands and now lives in Australia with her husband. She has two daughters and several grandchildren.