Page Journal Entry Page Journal Entry
x A Note to the Reader
1 How We Feel About Ourselves
2 Finding Our Good Points
3 Other People Can Affect
4 Comparing Ourselves to Others
5 Setting Personal Goals
6 How Other People Can Help
7 Worrying About New Things
8 Imagining the Worst
9 Getting Unworried
10 Worries that Went Away
11 Getting Honest
12 When Things Don’t Go Our Way
13 Being a Secret Helper
14 Being Good to Ourselves
15 Trusting Other People
16 Trusting the Wrong Person
17 Talking About Problems
18 A Wonderful World
19 Parents Aren’t Perfect
20 Good Friends Make
Us Feel Good
21 Picking Friends
22 Making Friends
23 Being a Good Friend
24 Learning to Laugh at Ourselves
25 Sensing Our Power
26 Accepting Ourselves
27 Changing Ourselves
28 My Dream Picture
29 Being Grateful
30 Taking Risks that Help Us
31 Taking Risks that Hurt Us
32 How We Take Care of Ourselves
33 Caring About Our Appearance
34 What to Do When
We’re Feeling Bad
35 Taking an Interest in
Things Around Us
36 Trusting Our Intuition
37 Facing Our Fears
38 Things We Used to Be Afraid Of
39 Accepting Things We
40 Keeping Promises
41 Promises That Should
Not Be Kept
42 Honesty Makes Us Feel Good
43 Making People Read Our Minds
44 Putting Ourselves Down
45 Feeling Jealous of Other People
47 Making Our Affirmations
48 Saying No
49 Practicing Saying No
50 Thoughts and Feelings
51 Thinking We’re “Terrible”
54 How We Feel About Ourselves:
55 Breaking Big Goals
into Little Goals
56 Rewarding Ourselves
57 Easy Does It
58 Our Feelings Affect Our Bodies
59 Harmful Ways of
Dealing with Anger
60 Helpful Ways of
Dealing with Anger
61 How Important Is This?
63 Expressing Our Sadness
64 Dealing With Extreme
Anger or Sadness
65 We Are Unique
66 Being Ourselves
67 Roles We Play in Our Families
68 Believing in Ourselves
70 Building Our Self-Confidence
71 People We Can Depend On
72 Depending on Ourselves
73 How We Handle Freedom
74 Blaming Other People
75 Blaming Ourselves
76 Dealing with Other
People’s Bad Moods
77 Our Family’s Unwritten Rules
78 Our Family’s Rules About Talking
79 How Our Families
80 Expressing Our Feelings
81 It’s Great to Be Alive
82 Expressing Our Love
83 Being Happy
84 Growing Up Is Confusing
85 Arguing with Brothers
86 Learning to Handle Money
87 Familiar Things to Hang On To
88 Being Careful About
Other People’s Advice
89 Showing Appreciation
to Our Parents
90 Making Chores Fun
91 Taking Quiet Time for Ourselves
92 Seeing the Good in
93 Our Heroes
94 A list of people to call for help
How We Feel About Ourselves Date:
How happy we are is often determined by how we feel about ourselves.
Sometimes it helps to make a list of all the feelings we have about ourselves.
Then we can find ways to like ourselves more.
▲ How I felt about myself half a year ago:
▲ How I feel about myself today:
▲ How I’d like to feel about myself:
I wish I felt better about myself. But I do
like myself more than last year.
Finding Our Good Points Date:
Sometimes we forget how good we really are. It helps to write down good things about ourselves. They remind us what great people we are.
▲ My good qualities:
I am really kind to people. Sometimes I help
the lady who lives across the street.
Other People Can Affect Date:
Other people can make a big difference in how we feel about ourselves. If someone says, “You’re smart. You can do that,” we feel good. If someone says, “You’re stupid” or “You’re ugly,” we feel bad. Sometimes we feel better if we stop being around people who make us feel bad.
▲ People who make me feel good about myself:
▲ People who make me feel bad about myself:
▲ Do I still need to be around the people who make me feel bad? Do I have to believe what they say?
I stopped paying attention to what Jordan says,
because it always made me mad or sad.
Comparing Ourselves to Others Date:
Sometimes we try to make ourselves feel better by comparing ourselves to other people. We may feel we are “better than” some people, but we usually end up feeling “worse than” other people. When we compare, we aren’t appreciating the special people we are.
▲ Times I compared myself to other people:
▲ How did that make me feel?
It felt good when I told myself I was smarter than my brothers, but then I remembered how many kids are smarter than me.
Setting Personal Goals Date:
Many people feel good when they are working toward a goal that is important to them. A goal could be learning to play the piano, becoming a better basketball player, or making new friends. Goals are best when they are our goals, not things other people want us to do.
▲ Goals I accomplished last year:
▲ My goals for this year:
This year I’d like to get better at soccer. My parents
want me to play baseball, but I’d rather play soccer
How Other People Can Help Date:
Sometimes things get in our way when we work on goals. That makes it hard to keep working toward our goals. It helps to know other people who have goals like ours so we can help each other.
▲ People who might have goals like mine:
▲ Ways we might be able to help each other:
▲ Other people I can look to for help:
My friend Brittany is really good at math. I can ask her to help me so I’ll make better grades.
Worrying About New Things Date:
Sometimes we worry about things that are new or different, like moving to a new neighborhood, going to a different school, or trying a new haircut. Most of the time when we do something new or different, things turn out fine.
Sometimes we are even happier than before.
▲ Times I did something new and different:
▲ Which of these changes turned out okay?
▲ Which of these changes didn’t turn out okay?
I moved to a different part of town and I was worried about going to a new school.
When you’re almost a teenager, there’s a lot of new and amazing stuff happening to you. Your parents want you to take more responsibility, but then they act like they don’t trust you. Your friends want you to try new things that might get you in trouble. Your feelings about yourself, the people you know, and your world are changing, sometimes daily. It seems like everything is changing!
Thirteen kids ages eight to twelve worked with the author to make this journal. Now you can use Inside Out to think about and decide about all sorts of things. How can you get your parents to see that you’re growing up? What if your friends try drugs? How can you look your best? What makes you feel good?
Any time you want, you can find a page in this journal that talks about what’s bothering you. You’ll discover some good ideas and space to write or draw as you think things out. Inside Out’s a place where you can explore ideas about growing up. It’s a special place to find yourself.
About the Author
Gretchen Van Kleef has a master’s degree in clinical psychology and many years of counseling experience. She has worked with individuals and families with a wide range of problems, including stress-related problems and substance abuse. She is passionate about helping young people feel good about themselves and develop coping skills.