156 Ways Learning Neuro Linguistic Programming Will Improve Your Life
byHeidi Heron PsyD & Laureli Blyth
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5. Develop More Self-worth
Are you worthy? Have you ever felt unworthy? Worthy of what you may ask? Anything you desire! worthy of love, happiness, a great job, money, time, peace, freedom, a life well lived.
What if, as a newborn, you have all the self-worth you need? Think about it: a new-born child is not concerned about how much time, money, effort, or value they have. They don’t have to do anything to receive love, food, care, shelter or clothing. They just have to be.
But, for some people, this changes overtime and the concept of self-worth becomes conditional. Conditional on doing a good job, getting good grades, being a good child, being quiet, helping others, or making someone else laugh or safe. Conditional self-worth can be detrimental in many ways; a person may create the need for external validation from others, a self-concept that is dependent on external factors or even a belief that they are simply not worthy of what was granted to us upon birth.
With NLP, you will be able to identify beliefs or conditions placed on your self-worth and create a change to these unconscious factors in life. If when you were born you didn’t have to do anything at all to be worthy, what it be like if the same were true for you now?
You will be able to unharness any conditions to your self-worth and elevate your own worth to natural levels of being and worthiness. Just like when you were born!
6. Get to Know Yourself
How well would you say you know yourself? Interestingly, most your patterns of emotions, behaviours, and beliefs are largely unconscious—and are simply a part of what we do and how we act and how we behave. But, what if each and every thing you do is based on your programming? Would you know all those programs? Or do you think you live life on auto-pilot?
If you’ve ever heard anyone say something like “oh, that’s just how I am,” this is a loud alarm that really says, “I don’t really know myself—I just do whatever happens and call it fate.”
We tend to underestimate the importance of knowing ourselves. Many of us go through each day reacting to events and just getting by rather than making choices based on who we are and what we want. One of the most common remarks we hear from our students after they begin to learn NLP is “I truly understand and know myself more now—so now, I can respect my model of the world.”
In NLP, this is a presupposition or assumption, to respect another person’s model of the world. But, first and foremost, NLP will help you to understand and respect your own.
Your model of the world is made up of your history, memories, values, beliefs, concepts, imagination, and something we call meta programs, which are unconscious filters through which you make sense of your world. With NLP, you will learn not only more about what is important to you, what you believe, how your behaviours help or hold you back, but you’ll also be able to figure out why you do what you do. You’ll learn how to change what isn’t working for you and enhance what is.
Unfortunately, not knowing yourself well can lead to confusion and wasting much time with indecision and second-guessing. However, when you know what motivates you, how to make better decisions, what is important to you, and how to change aspects that hold you back, something magical can happen. That something magical is that YOU can not only better understand yourself, you can become your own best friend!
7. Change Unwanted Habits and Behaviours
Have you ever had a habit or behaviour that you wanted to change? Maybe it was procrastination, or disorganisation, or being quick to anger. Or maybe it was more of a physical behaviour like smoking, biting your nails, or emotional eating.
You will learn how your unconscious programs lead directly to the behaviours you have in life, both the positive and negative behaviours. You will learn not just how to identify these behaviours and underlying patterns, but you’ll also learn how to change these unwanted habits and behaviours.
The mind is very ritualistic in many ways, and works best with habits and routines; in fact, habits are very easy to create—but not always as easy to change! Often, we hear people say they continue with the old unwanted habit or behaviour because they don't know what they would rather do, they don’t have the will power or resolve to change, or they tried but it didn’t work.
We know that with NLP, if you have a strong enough desire, the how you make a change is easy. And, with some of the simple tools NLP has, you will be able to create quick and long-lasting changes to behaviours and habits that are no longer serving you. The longer-term benefit of this is that you will have practical tools that will help you to direct your thoughts, actions, and behaviours and ultimately have the power over your own life and mind.
With NLP, we have helped people change so many behaviours and habits in their lives. If something isn’t working for you and if you want to change, you can use NLP! This might help you to quit smoking, putting yourself down, apologising unnecessarily, drinking too much, forgetting to put the lid on the toothpaste, driving too fast, reacting instead of being proactive, stop procrastinating, getting nervous, or any other behaviour that isn’t in alignment with what you want in your life.
The first step is simply to choose which behaviour or habit to transform first!
Curious about NLP? Want to know how it can help you?
This book answers the most pressing questions we receive about Neuro Linguistic Programming and takes you on a journey that highlights how you can use NLP in personal development, communication, business, health and other aspects of life.
With NLP you can improve your leadership skills, create better relationships, become a better parent and friend and even work with others as a coach or therapist.
In fact, whatever area of your life needs improvement NLP will give you the tools that you can easily learn to make massive changes in your life.
This book is written by Dr. Heidi Heron PsyD and Laureli Blyth, NLP Master Trainers with the Worldwide Institutes of NLP (www.nlpworldwide.com). They have a great passion for sharing NLP globally while also helping to empower, enlighten and enhance the world with NLP one person at a time. Based on their blog of the same name and written in their signature conversational style, this book gives you 156 reasons why you really Must Learn NLP.
About the Author
Laureli Blyth & Dr. Heidi Heron PsyD are the Directors and Principal Trainers with the Worldwide Institutes of NLP based in Sydney, Australia. Since 1994 NLP Worldwide has been offering full-cycle NLP training, coaching, therapy and consulting. Now is your chance to learn directly with these two sought after NLP Master Trainers.
Laureli Blyth has over 30 years in the field of NLP. She is a well known and respected International NLP Master Trainer, Clinical Hypnotherapist, & Numerologist. American by birth she now makes her home in Australia. She lectures & teaches programs in Australia, USA, Europe & Asia Pacific. The founder & director the Australasian Institute of NLP in Sydney, she inspires & assists others to use their minds, get their voice & have the life they desire. Laureli has a vast knowledge of the psyche & assists her students & clients to integrate their mind, body & spirit. Her wholeness approach & extent of her knowledge is displayed in her range of books that are available throughout the world, Neuro Intelligence, Brain Power, Dream Power, The Numerology of Names & 30 Days to NLP.
Dr. Heidi has been involved with the technology of NLP for most of her life and is an International Master Trainer of NLP, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Doctor of Psychology. She has obtained her Doctorate in Psychology; Masters in Adult Education and Bachelor Degrees in Psychology and Communication. Heidi has a background in Corporate Human Resources Management and Personal Development. She has studied NLP with some of the top leaders in NLP and continues to up-skill herself personally and professionally. Heidi has been working in the field of Human Development since 1992. She is the co-author of 30 Days to NLP, part of the leadership team of the NLP Leadership Summit and an Executive Board Member of the Australian Board of NLP.