How to Bury Your Spouse Without Committing Murder
Your Guide To Healing The Right Way During Your Divorce
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Intention starts in the powerful data processing center which we call the brain. Our brains are so powerful that they are continuously interpreting and internalizing information throughout the day, and then working throughout the night in our dreams. Our brains are running our lives, our day-to-day thoughts and actions, and yet we pay little attention to the thousands of thoughts that are bouncing around up there in any given twenty-four-hour period. We could retrace nearly all our actions from the day prior, but could we do the same with our thoughts? That would be too time-consuming (also crazy and impossible). This is because we operate from our consciousness less than 5% of the time. This equates to 95% of our daily thoughts being subconscious, or derived out of habit. In other words, our subconscious thoughts are up there having a party at the expense of our emotional well-being. Hell, our emotional well-being is basically napping, while our subconscious is getting red wine, pizza sauce, and chocolate syrup all over everything, including our outlook on life. Truth: it is hard to get divorce off the brain when you are in the throes of it; often, it is all you think about. This means that your subconscious thoughts (all 95% of them) are more than likely about divorce and the emotions attached to it. It means that your subconscious thoughts are angry, hateful, depressive, and vengeful (and the list goes on). Asking you to give that up is like asking you to stop thinking, which sounds like another impossibility. What is worse (yes, there’s more) is that in addition to 95% of our thoughts being subconscious, we primarily function in a reactive state, acting on emotion without thinking things through. We react to what others say and how they behave.
So, it is quite possible that 95% of your mind is busied up about all things divorce and the 5% that is left is mostly reacting emotionally to the world outside of us. Talk about not thinking with your head! Do not miss out on the innately powerful function of your mind; the powerful ability to choose how you want to feel, dream, create, and learn. There is hope: you can retrain your mind at any time and at any age. This, my friend, is why we created the Divorce Wellness Series. Creating powerful intentions requires you to retrain your subconscious mind to effectuate change in your perspective, which will lead to new intention. Hence, it is our “intention” (our goal) that you understand the importance of knowing how you feel the majority of the time. We want you to be as close to 100% tuned into, i.e., aware of, your thoughts as possible. This will take practice, we understand that. However, there is a real possibility that you will feel that you have 100% control over your thoughts, even if it means realizing you don’t so long as you are working to change your thoughts. That is awareness! We cannot control the thoughts but we can become aware of them and learn to change their direction. This will become easier and easier as you practice mindfulness.
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Are you going through a divorce? Do you sometimes wish that you could bury your spouse? If so, this book is for you. But this book is not actually about burying your spouse. Rather, it is about showing you how to bury the suffering you associate with your spouse, and we are going to show you how to do it with our unique strategy.
About the Author
Alaina Molesko is a graduate of Rutgers in New Brunswick, NJ. She obtained her paralegal certificate in 2015, while raising her two sons and one daughter who were four, eight, and twelve. Alaina became a paralegal in June 2015. She works for a family law practice, assisting multitudes of divorcing couples. Alaina is also a divorcee—further making her a pro in this arena—who is currently, and happily, remarried. Alaina is a Level III Reiki Master and Teacher. She has always been an alternative medicine enthusiast, taking great interest in the mind and body’s ability to heal itself with natural supplements and through the power of positive thinking, faith and meditation. She is also knowledgeable in Ayurvedic lifestyles, the healing properties of crystals, herbs and essential oils. She uses all these tools in her personal life coaching health and wellness business, which she founded in 2014. Alaina is professionally, as well as self-taught, in many aspects of self-care and self-help. She has attended classes for life coaching and obtained certifications in both spiritual and personal life coaching via the World Coaching Institute in 2015. She also became a certified health and wellness nutrition coach in 2015, obtaining her certificate from NAFC. She has our own life-coaching business that is expanding greatly, which is called Eightfold Path Life Coaching, LLC. Stefanie Gagliardi is a mother to Isabella, wife to Joseph and an attorney practicing in Northwest New Jersey. Stefanie received a B.A. in Communication, which placed an emphasis on interpersonal relationships, thus sparking her passion to pursue a J.D. She is a litigator, trained mediator and trained collaborative divorce attorney. Stefanie has spent over a decade during her career volunteering her time to the public. Her volunteer work includes helping victims of domestic violence, educating spouses contemplating divorce and helping her colleagues settle their cases. She lives by the saying, “knowledge is power” and it has been her steadfast objective to educate the general public about the legal process and the rights afforded by the judicial system. She also devotes her time to public service by helping at a local volunteer center where she participates in various outreach programs. For this and her work as an attorney, Stefanie was named one of New Jersey’s 2015, 2016, 2017 SuperLawyers Rising Stars as well as New Jersey’s 2015, 2016 2017 “10 Best” Attorneys and New Jersey’s 2015 “10 Best” Law Firms by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. She considers herself a spiritual person first, and she implements spiritual practices into her daily routine. Inspired by her studies at a Buddhist Temple, her intention in co-creating Divorce Buddha is to help others build and sustain wellness in a society that feeds off divorce scandal and fear.