Find Your Way in Love and Relationships with Numerology

We can't do the vibration of the 6 justice without talking about honesty. This energy encourages us to be honest with self and honest with others and it can be relentless in this pursuit. We covered honesty a bit in previous chapters, but because this is such a big imprint of this energy, let's touch on it briefly once more. We simply cannot have healthy, happy relationships if there is no honesty. We say we want honesty, but honestly, most of the time we aren't prepared to handle that honesty. Honesty can be freeing for everyone involved. All things become clear through honesty with self and with others. There is little room for misunderstandings and games when everyone is speaking honestly about what they need, how they feel and what they want. There is no need for assumptions, guesswork or mind reading when we can speak our truth and hold space for another to do the same. We do ourselves and each other an enormous disservice when we are not honest and we only prolong the grief associated with dishonesty, because eventually, one way or another, the truth will surface. Often times in some form of unnecessary conflict. Honesty and speaking our truth are entirely our responsibility. If we don't represent ourselves and speak up for ourselves when it comes to what we need, how we feel or what we want then we are allowing others to speak on our behalf and decide for us. We also can't expect others to just know. They may be able to guess some of the time, but they will likely get it wrong most of the time. Also, it isn't another person's responsibility to have to figure it out. We don't have control over how another responds or reacts to our honesty, but not speaking our truth for fear of conflict keeps us feeling disempowered, misunderstood and resentful. Honesty is not confrontational. Our unwillingness or resistance to hearing it or facing it can absolutely be quite confrontational. The more honest that we can be with ourselves and with each other, the healthier and stronger our connections and relationships can become. Being honest about what we want, how we feel and what we need allows for the truest form of authenticity possible. If someone is being honest with us in communicating their needs and we in turn become defensive, then the conflict has nothing to do with the honesty. It has to do with our own unwillingness to hear or be faced with that honesty. The more honest we can be with ourselves and with each other, the more the need for boundaries diminish and the more opportunities for solid, healthy connections emerge in a space where they can flourish and grow. First, we have to look in the mirror and be honest with ourselves, then we can be honest with others while creating a space for them to also be honest with us in return. That is our responsibility. It is not our responsibility to try and mitigate how the other person will receive or respond to our truth. Before we can communicate our feelings, needs and desires to others, we have to understand what they actually are. We have to spend some time with self to figure out how it is that we actually feel so that we can express that to others and they can decide whether or not they can meet us there or not. Sometimes simply saying, “I don't know how I feel about this yet.” is a very honest statement. If this is true, then it is our responsibility to spend time figuring it out, rather than expecting someone external to ourselves to decide for us. Sometimes what we want goes against societal norms or is very different than what the other person feels comfortable with. That is okay too. The honesty brings the clarity so that we have the information we need in order to make important decisions moving forward. If we were to lie and say that we are happy and fulfilled in a connection, but we truly aren't, then we aren't going to see any changes within that connection. We will only become resentful because we are unhappy. If we are honest about how we feel, then we give everyone involved the opportunity to make the best decisions for themselves and for the connection moving forward. Healthy solutions can only come from honesty, nothing else. When we can show up in this way and we know that we have represented ourselves honestly, then it alleviates unnecessary frustration, anger, feeling taken advantage of, misunderstandings and so much more.