Unimacy

The Unimacy Aspirations To expand sensuality within your own body. Most people expect from sex powerful sensations purely in their genitals. It is as if the rest of the body is numb. Our brain wants these sensations and consequently it strongly directs our attention to the genitals. We need to re-educate our brain. We need to bring our attention to other parts of the body where our partner is touching us. Then we will not get bored and our partner will feel appreciated for the acts of love they direct towards our body. Then we will start to love our body more and also to love our partner more. To help your partner expand the sensuality of their body. The same usually happens when we touch our partner: we think only about their genitals. We think that we need to arouse him/her and for this reason stimulate their genitals. Instead we need to concentrate on creating feelings of love in our heart and focus on touching our partner's whole body radiating this feeling of love into it. We need to bring happy and cosy feelings into our partner's body. We allow our partner to respond to our touch with softness and relaxation. We gain softness and relaxation in our own body during our touching of the body of our partner. We create a sense of ease and comfort for our partner so that he or she can express their joy and happiness. To develop better skills in romantic and arousing touch. The sexuality given to us by nature is lacking in imagination and physical skills. Most people's imagination is based on the simple instinctual desire to get more and more aroused until finally reaching climax. Sexual tips and techniques help men and women obtain physical skills to arouse the body but they do not work on creating the sense of bonding and connection required to maintain good lovemaking long term. This is why I have had in my practice a lot of broken-hearted men and women. Their partners left them for another lover, even though these clients told me that sex with their ex-partners was great. This then makes you wonder what ‘great sex’ is. In the opinion of most people great sex is active stimulation to create arousal, passionate body movements and then orgasm. I doubt that if you say ‘great sex’ you think of slow gentle stroking and long kisses on the forehead or neck... Romantic touch is different and too often hardly known amongst many men and women. Romantic touch creates romantic feelings. It is the type of touch reflected not in the part of our brain where we want more arousal and orgasm but in another part of our brain where we want to say: “I am so happy that I have you in my life! I love you so much! You are so wonderful!” We all miss romance when it is not in our life. Romance stays an illusion until we learn to touch in ways that create the real feeling of romantic love. Romance is the dream of that special touch and the reality of experiencing it. Usually romantic reality does not last long and too often returns back to being merely a romantic dream. This is because romantic touch needs to be supported by a strong feeling of adoration and care. When people have known each other for a long time the feeling of adoration fades. However, consciously strengthening it can make romantic reality last. To expand the variety of romantic touch. Romantic reality will last if your physical love consists of a variety of romantic touches. The physical body is vast. There are so many parts that we can touch with true loving feelings. We need to continually change our focus when we touch our partner's body. We need to create chains of touches which together encourage the flow of love. Your partner's body is like a land where you slowly travel and explore when you touch it with your hands, lips, skin... To develop your ability to express Physical Love with all the Five Senses. Arousal always brings our attention solely to the physical sensation. We need to learn to never stop enjoying our partner's taste, smell, appearance, the sound of their voice and breathing. Once more this comes down to our concentration and focus. If we widen our focus to experience our partner with all of our five senses and express our enjoyment of that experience, we make our partner feel special and so much happier. Our life is driven by pain and pleasure. The feeling of pleasure is our anchor. The pleasure of being loved completely, including the way we look, smell, sound, taste and feel to the touch creates a deep sense of being appreciated and therefore a deep sense of connection. To develop your ability to receive and appreciate the Physical Love expressed to you trough your partner’s Five Senses. When our partner is touching us we need to consciously turn our five senses towards our partner. We enjoy their touch and express this enjoyment by looking at them with a smile and even adoration or we say nice words and make our voice sound beautiful to our partner's ears. We expand our sense of smell and breathe the smell of our partner into our lungs with a happy expression on our face... We synchronise our five senses with our partner's. To replace instinctive sexual urges with conscious physical actions supported by Feelings of Care and Love. When both partners expand their actions during sexual practice to the creation of a chain of romantic touches, their sexual instinct is naturally controlled by joyful sensations received through the five senses. The desire for higher arousal and the urge to climax disappear. Instead the bodies want to continue their magical exchange. This in turn supports trust and security as the exchange is based on care and love for the partner's body.