The Father Figure "Male or Female" Commitment

About the Book

I felt Called by the spirit of the LORD to author this Book. I realize that by the grace of God for seven decades, I am blessed to share my thoughts about the Glory of Unconditional Love, Forgiveness, and the importance of having as a healthy Father Figure Role Model Commitment within and outside of the Home. Message to the Readers: This book is ideal for couples that are planning to start a meaningful relationship or a future marriage. Similarly, will significantly help anyone that had previously experienced a divorce and is now planning their second or third marriage. Because it examines the correlation between Divorces and an unhealthy Father Figure’s Commitment Role Model. That based on average second marriages results in a 60 percent marriage Divorce Rate. The Divorce Rates percentages are even higher for third and greater marriages. Therefore, this is what compelled me to authoring this book. Clinically, I believe that on average people that are going or had gone through a divorce need to pause and read this book. As an approach to start the process of addressing needed behavioral changes. Since coping with separation from someone you once genuinely loved is a very unhappy life experience. Both parties need to recognize that a failed or failing first marriage is strong indication that something is wrong and needs to be clinically processed and resolved. My hypothesis is based on my over fifty years of life experiences, numerous episodes of unregulated and unprocessed emotions, as well as an inconsistent presentation of the Father Figure’s Commitment essence. That was cultivated by years of embedded and unprocessed unhealthy emotions. Due to an exhibited argumentative presentation that lacked the heart of Unconditional Love and Forgiveness. In general, regarding the connection between Divorce Rate and the Father Figure Commitment, I think, that by increasing awareness about the value of two-way healthy communication, where all parties’ thoughts, feelings, and concerns are relevant. In addition, improve people passion for healthier communication within a family, will result in strengthen their readiness to implement skills to better manage unregulated emotions, resolve concerns and reduce the Divorce Rate number for second and higher marriages. Furthermore, during the initial stages of any relationships and prior to Marriage, there should be discussions about the fundamental principles unconditional love and forgiveness. That is achieved by the implementation of effective Counseling techniques from the Nineteen Chapters in this book.

About the Author

Deacon Octavius Lamont Brown, MBA, MSCC, CASAC Master Level, LCADC and LPC is the Founder, CEO, and CAO of DOC OCTAVIUS MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES. Octavius L. Brown was born on July 6, 1951, in Queens, New York and raised in the South Bronx of New York City (aka. “Boogie down Bronx”). On his sixteenth birthday, in the summer of 1967, he woke up early to gather his Birth Certificate and Social Security Card to travel to Employment Office for a job. After a quick breakfast, he walked out of Melrose Project building 681 Courtland Ave, Bronx New York to the State Employment Office, on East 149 Street off Courtland Avenue. The goal was to get a real paying hourly job. Prior to his sixteenth birthday, the only source of income was from his New York Post paper route, selling shopping bags in front of Department Stories like Hearns and Alexanders, as well as shining shoes in Bars and on the corners Third Avenue between E 149 Street to East 153 Street. Once he arrived at the State Employment Office, to his surprise, his enthusiasm was met with equal support from the man at the Employment Office. After basic verification of his documents, the man provided him with an address for him to go and apply for a Part-Time position. The job was at Melrose Pharmacy on the corner of East 153 Street and Courtland Ave. That was right across the street from his apartment building, and he was able to see the front of the store’s window display from his bedroom window. The Pharmacist at the Pharmacy hired him to do their deliveries and stocking the store with their merchandises for sell. To his surprise the summer of 1967, he had achieved three part-time jobs. The main one was working at the Pharmacy, his New York Post paper route and a Summer Neighbor job that was paying $37.50 weekly. The Summer job were for teenagers that lived in the South Bronx area. The four plus hours of work assignment had youths within the neighbor clearing out abandoned houses and empty lots in Harlem and the South Bronx area of New York City. On February 16, 1970, and for the next 35 years he worked at New York Telephone/ Verizon until I retired on June 30, 2005. His Telecommunication career entailed Technical Skills, Central Office Frame-men, then Switchmen, and Union Steward, as well as Central Office and later Outside Cable Manager. Education: Bachelor of Science Degree in Business Management from Empire State College (June of 1995). Certificate of Biblical Foundation on May 5, 2007. He received Master of Business Administration in the Spring Semester of 2005 from Regis University. Then in May of 2010, he received his Master of Science in Christian Counseling Degree. On September 14, 2012, he received his New York’s License as a Certified Alcohol and Substance Abuse Counselor. Then on December 14, 2012, he completed Cairn University third year Program with the Certificate of Advanced Specialization in Christian Counseling. Then on August 12, 2013, he passed the National Counselor Examination that led him to obtaining his New Jersey License Professional Counselor and Alcohol and Drug Counselor Licenses, since 2018. He has over 12 years of Mental Health Clinical life experiences in personal and educational development that have provided him with excellent Clinical Skills on Assessments, Occupational Health, Sexual Abuse, Behavioral Health, Complex Trauma, Domestic Violence, Family, Parenting Therapy training. He often reflects on how extremely blessed he is to have an extensive Managerial, Telecommunication Technical and Mental Health Clinical Skills to meet the participant’s mental health needs. It is his honor to be able to give back to the community. In closing, for over 55 years, Octavius lived with an Anger Management problem that was never diagnosed. Once he was able to realize the importance of Anger Management Counseling. It then helped him to discover the importance of mental health counseling and why we should never be ignored the signed of unregulated emotion episodes, which is commonly defined as an Anger outburst. Once he became aware of his mental health concerns due to unprocessed and unresolved developmental years, he then developed coping skills to make healthy and productive decisions. It is by the grace of GOD that he took the time to learn what were his physical and psychological triggers. That is evidenced by his readiness to practice ways to implement Anger Management techniques and healthy decision-making skills to reduce and better manger your emotional triggers.