Informal Conversations

About emotions… Emotions indicate how our life is manifested in our relationships, in our health, and in our occupations or jobs. According to their extent and intensity, emotions are the force that prompts us to withdraw from, implicate ourselves in, or move closer to life. They constitute the expression of our thoughts, as well as the origins of language, which allows us to communicate both physically and verbally. This is why, as we get to know emotions and figure out how they work, we lay the foundations for our new operating system (OS). Since emotions are but vibrations, my dear friend, they are linked with the self at precisely the point where the self reverberates. The laws of electromagnetism are completely operational in emotion. Emotions have an effect on us as well as on others, because they are waves and motion. It is important to be clear about the fact that every one of us is different and moves at a different frequency, even though we might agree with the ideas, feelings and actions of others. Hence, emotions have at their root the quality of our thoughts, as well as the quality of the inner conversation we’re constantly having with ourselves. About family.. Over the course of your life, the foremost, toughest teachers you will come across are precisely those creatures that gave their life to being, to the self, as well as some of your closest relatives, who might represent everything you do not wish to be, yet end up imitating anyway: if you do not keep on your toes, you might turn into one of them. Turning into our parents, as good as they may have been, bespeaks, my dear friend, a lack of independence and consciousness: it tells you that you aren’t independent enough to build your own life. It also tells you that you have shirked from the transforming qualities of the here and now, that by imitating them you would rather be a mere photocopy of them, instead of taking the responsibility of drawing, so to speak, an original sketch of yourself, with all the consequences this may involve. Ultimately, it means that we must own what is ours... Let us now consider our times. The wound is first inflicted on us when we are compared to someone else. It would seem harmless when someone remarks, right after a child is born: well, he looks just like his/her father or his/ her mother or his/her grandmother or his/her grandfather. So, in order to belong to the family, I must at the very least physically resemble one of its members. As the years go by, however, I’m also supposed to act the way I’ve been taught to, behaving in a way that appears familiar to them. So, I am accepted not for who I am, neither for my qualities nor my creativity. Rather, I am accepted because I am able to mimic them. I’ve learned to resemble them, and to act as yet another member of the family. Thus, our individuality goes unacknowledged… As a tool, this wound is very important to our life. It is like a spiritual contract (SC), in that we covertly choose not to acknowledge or recognize this wound. We opt to relive our personal history again and again as adults, refusing to come to terms with and integrate the experience of pain into our life. It is so that, by choice, throughout our lives, we continue to play the victim. By changing our operating system (OS), we discover there is yet another option. It requires that we pinpoint and acknowledge this wound; that we point out how it was inflicted on us, and, ultimately, how fallacious it is. We wonder why we consider ourselves victims, why we feel that we’re never good enough, as though we didn’t amount to much and therefore didn’t deserve much of anything. Consequently, we take action!... Parents represent a healthy sense of belonging that indeed sustains us: understanding them allows us to set ourselves free, to trustingly take responsibility for ourselves and dare become the person we wish to be, being ourselves and expressing our individuality. Thus, devoid of judgment for what has been given to you, only accepting it and healing it, your heart fills up with gratitude. This is what it means to experience a relationship from the point of view the new operating system (OS). Furthermore, in line with our new self-Self, we come to terms with Life, loving our parents in our hearts, honoring our ancestors by sincerely acknowledging them, by accepting them such as they are or were, by thanking them for life itself, no longer yearning for what should have been. In short, our gratitude is the best gift we can give them. Yes, my friend: honor them as your ancestors. We give it our best, which means coming to terms with Life itself, with the cause and the effect. About nutrition… I suggest that we talk about nutrition as the basis of, as well as the ideal complement to, our emotional states, and our states of mind in general. Not as a vital means of survival, but rather, in the modern world, as a social… panacea… Emotionally speaking, foodstuffs consist of Evocation (cravings), since they elicit memories, images, and recollections; we let them into our lives, so to speak, in order to calm down, to refresh ourselves, to remember and relive pleasant memories. We evoke love, care, trust, solidarity, company and friendship; this offers us, in the here and now, calm, celebration, and optimism… Unfortunately, this has turned us into food-addicts: we live to eat, to the point that we now uncontrollably desire, and are addicted to, select foodstuffs. We have specific food-cravings that are not even hunger-related: this is the real cause of the obesity epidemic. About friendship… Friends witness your life: they support you in situations and circumstances that you have allowed them to share with you. They are the individuals whom we choose to keep us company and with whom we share the expression of our emotions – both of pain and of pleasure. Let us open for them the doors of our heart.