In so many ways we have become the lost society; the world has become so complex we struggle to grasp our own reality. We try to ‘find’ ourselves, ‘understand’ ourselves, ‘create’ ourselves; or sometimes ‘lose’ ourselves and shadow another in an attempt to feel fulfilled. What ever happened to simply ‘being ourselves’? We question our contentedness and if we are content does that mean we are deceiving ourselves.
Plainly put, we are what and who we are at this point in time. If we are incongruent in ourselves, we are the only ones who can alter those dynamics. We have the ability to live a mentally and emotionally balanced life if we adjust our mindset and follow through with the necessary actions to create it.
If we trust in our own beliefs, our thoughts, our values and our individual traits we will attract those who resonate with us. If we veer away from our natural characteristics and qualities to accommodate anything or anyone else, we will struggle until we ‘find’ ourselves and put ourselves back on our personal track again.
This does not mean we only think about ourselves with disregard for others. It does not mean having a rigid, unbending mindset. The congruence I am talking about is that deep-rooted core belief of what works for us and what does not. If we consistently resonate with ourselves and follow what is in our heart and head, we will never steer ourselves wrong. In fact, you may be pleasantly surprised at those around you who suddenly become more accommodating. You will also find though, some who distance themselves from you as you no longer seem to be on the same wavelength.
Since her childhood, I have watched in fascination as our daughter has unconsciously applied this mindset and concepts to achieve her goals. She has held true to herself, determines and embraces what works for her and discards what does not.
Our daughter has, many times over, given me awareness and understanding that defies her years on this plane. Her ideals are concise; she defines what she wants, sometimes vaguely, sometimes specifically, and then allows the appropriate opportunities to present themselves. Most importantly, she follows through regardless of how her ‘want’ presents itself.
In Grade 5 our daughter announced she wanted to do a French Exchange in Grade 8, which was the earliest age any student exchanges were offered. My husband assured her he would consider her going to Quebec. She emphatically stated that by French exchange she meant France. Quebec was not an option. In Grade 8 our daughter went to France for 3 months.
In Grade 9 our daughter then announced she wanted to do another exchange, but this time to Costa Rica. In Grade 10 off she went. She wanted to take Grade 12 biology in the Costa Rican rainforest. That summer she headed to Costa Rica for a condensed 4-week summer program to acquire her biology credit before entering Grade 12.
Every step of the way the finances presented themselves, in some way either through us, or as she got older through her own means, for her to achieve these goals.
Now an adult, she still follows the same basic mindset she exercised in her earlier years. She wants it in her heart, envisions it in her mind and takes action to make it reality.
Like the rest of us, Kendra has her highs and lows, fears and anxieties, trials and tribulations. However what I have witnessed time and again is that she is very quick to recognize when she is out of sync with herself and she opens up to whatever opportunity comes to correct this. This action is what maintains congruency.
Kendra may not know what her exact steps will be, she knows the end result she wants and allows God, Universe, Powers That Be to lay the stepping stones of opportunity out for her. This is where listening to that inner voice, trust in receiving what you have asked for and then acting upon it comes into play. To say it again, if we follow this simple mindset to orchestrate and direct our intentions, synchronicity will always work in conjunction with our intentions.
As mentioned earlier our daughter is not perfect nor is the following meant to idolize her. Rather, to give an understanding of how she integrates congruency in self, synchronicity of a higher energy, and the process of thinking and willing to create her physical reality.
It is these observations and defining this mindset that is put forth in the following pages. In addition to referencing Kendra also included are stories of others I have connected with through the years who I have seen instinctively exercising the same mindset to live their lives and achieve their goals successfully (by their benchmark). Simplistic in concept as one tiers naturally into the next, once fully understood and implemented, one can begin to embrace the contentedness of life to the fullest.
Discover the ‘KIS’ principle of fulfilling your life, your goals, and your dreams. Learn how you can successfully adopt this simple straightforward mindset and reap the benefits. Learn the six little steps you can implement every day to achieve whatever you set your mind to. Understand how you can also instill this mind-set in your children and those around you to enrich their lives and yours immeasurably.
About the Author
Deborah Johnson is an internationally known personal and corporate Visionary, Medium, and Inspirational Motivator focused on esteem and empowerment.
After receiving an Honors Marketing Degree, Kendra Johnson developed her hobby for literature during her travels in Southeast Asia and California. She now works in Events in the Hospitality Industry.