Finding the One

Introduction Let me start with giving you the most important tip about finding the one: Everything you are seeking in a partner is something you must be willing to become. This applies to all of your dreams. Our dreams are about what wants to be born through us. Finding the One will guide and inspire you through the midwifing of your own magnificence. Now that that is said, let me back up and tell you the roots of this book. Twenty one years ago, I committed to give my life to serve God. I didn't know what that meant at the time. Shortly after making this commitment, I met a teacher named Dr. Ernest Shear who reminded me that God is Love. Not just God is kind of love, or mostly love… but IS love. This rocked my world. Prior to meeting Dr. Shear, I was so angry at religion, humanity, and life for hurting people in the name of God. After we met, I knew Love is the Way and my heart began to melt. I am grateful to Dr. Shear for being a living example of God's love. I dived feverishly into spiritual growth, studying many different energy systems, therapy models, and spiritual paths. I began working with therapists and teachers, to heal my fears and inner shadows. I am grateful to Shinto, Penny Weaver, and Monk Mahdi for their incredible support. About three years into my spiritual growth path, I was told by my teacher and then-mentor (let’s call him Dr. What) that I was going to hell for being bisexual. I believed Dr. What. I could hear and see God saying, “You are loved,” but my current personal paradigm would not accept this. After a year and half of darkness, I fully surrendered. I realized everyone was Love. I felt in my bones that hate and pain were just different forms of God/Love. I saw how everything IS an expression of God. This began my journey into service. I started my service in natural health, opening my first healing center, Healing Energies, with my Dad, to whom I am so grateful. As I got my footing in natural health work, I witnessed clients in my sessions begin to have spontaneous healing shifts. This scared me. Is this power from me? Is it from them? Am I special? How is this happening??! I began to record the sessions for my own growth and research. This became my first book, Why Self-Acceptance Is So Powerful. I answered the question (why self-acceptance is so powerful) for myself. I found that something can only create suffering when we attach our worthiness to it. I saw the simple power of self-love to “plug” a person into the universal Love of God. I realized the full power of God was within all people and that I was just a tuning fork. I came to understand how scary self-love was for people because it meant letting go of false identifications and opening to who they Truly Are. I facilitated over 20,000 one-on-one session hours, as well as many workshops and retreats. I was an instrument of Love and Self-Acceptance for many. Without physically asking, I was offered a radio show, to write for local magazines, and several different community leadership positions. I learned many lessons, continued my intense spiritual study, and loved my sessions. In general, everything came to me with ease and grace. I was then challenged in my faith. Fourteen years after my spiritual path had begun, I faced my next mountain of inner growth. My relationship with a woman who was my friend of 25 years and partner of nine ended. On a meditation retreat in Hawaii, Spirit/God guided me to leave her. I left one month later, thrusting myself into a world I had never known. I had no close friends, no supportive community, and had never dated!! I was now being guided to date men. I didn't know what that looked like! At that time, I was also challenged with intense life events that I will lightly touch on later in the book. I dove even deeper into spiritual growth through personal study, workshops, meditation, service, school, nature communion, and continued to let life teach me. I began to answer questions such as: What is true intimacy? How do I own my sexual power? Why is “he” not showing up? Why don't I feel libido? Why do I feel so disconnected from my body? How do I own my space and power in relationship? How do I allow my Beloved within me, while also knowing my Beloved can be in another body?