Life Beyond Shame: Rewriting the Rules

by Connie Dawson

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Book Details

Language : English
Publication Date : 3/18/2016

Format : Softcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 274
ISBN : 9781504344609
Format : E-Book
Dimensions : N/A
Page Count : 274
ISBN : 9781504344616
Format : Hardcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 274
ISBN : 9781504344623

About the Book

We’ve lived for eons with a set of rules guiding how we have relationships with one another.

These Old Rules have, without question, been inadvertently passed, without examination, from generation to generation by our families. It’s past time to expose them to the light of day.

Why? Together, these Old Rules create a toxic environment we accept as inviolate. We struggle against others and against ourselves, not realizing that the shame-based Old Rules hold us back from being who we are meant to be and doing what we are meant to do.

When feelings of undeserved shame (something is wrong with us) become part of how we think of ourselves, two things are true: 1) our true selves become more defended and less available to ourselves and others, and 2) we become more easily manipulated to serve someone else’s needs in ways that are not in our best interests.

That sense of shame and the Old Rules reinforce each other. One look at them and it’s easy to see how they make it difficult to have healthy relationships. They are definitely not conducive to happiness. We know better. We just need to know how to do better, one rule at a time.

Unmasking and replacing Old Rules with even one of the New Rules begins to change everything

Change the rules, change the game.

About the Author

After a variety of experiences as an educator, attachment therapist, mother, grandmother, and author, Connie Dawson remains fascinated by the mechanisms of humiliation we’ve come to regard as normal. Her point of view is anchored in recognizing and changing her own legacy of shame. She lives on Whidbey Island, Washington.