I Love You

If you are feeling and acting as a victim, stop looking for someone to blame. Take responsibility for your own life. Everyone else has to. Think of it like this – each person has their own circumstances, and they can choose what to make of them, and can choose how to create good circumstances. I want you to also forgive yourself. Forgive all the people you need to forgive to get on with a happy life, and forgive yourself. If you’re thinking that you want to be a better parent, friend or partner, forgive yourself if you haven’t done so in the past. We can’t change the past, but we can affect our future. We can change how we feel about what happened in the past, or how we interpreted it. There doesn’t have to be any meaning attached to anything, or we can decide to make up a new meaning. We can decide to only remember pleasant memories. We can’t control everything, but we can certainly control our own temperament, we can choose who we spend time with, and we can choose to be optimistic, positive and loving. Ultimately, the emotions and feelings we choose determine our actions. I believe this is in our control. If you feel that your own personality or mood is not up to you, and you want it to be; then consider this idea from my Feel Good Now book. It has been proven by neuroscientists that you can change your brain. It has been proven that you can acquire any talent or skill by practice. It is up to you. You can decide to make any change for self-improvement and a more fulfilling life. It is a common for people to say, “Well, that’s just me,” or “That’s his personality,” or “I’m just like that.” You can change if you want to. If you haven’t been at your best, you can change in any given moment.