All losses, actual as in death, and perceived, as in divorce, breakups, or losing a job, may cause people to feel pain. Dealing with emotions is not easy. Many of us try not to feel because it hurts too much. Rather, we push them down deep within ourselves and do not allow them to see the light of day. In this way, we hope to redirect our energy. What we aren’t aware of is the enormous energy we have now lost – energy that is no longer available to us. And, in time, the stuffed emotions will resurface. Why not just allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are going to feel? Have courage to face them head on. Why make it harder than it has to be? When you get through the feeling, you are in a better place and freer in a way. Your self confidence improves as you face yourself.
Losing a companion, or significant other, that is living is difficult too. Simply because it is time for them to go can be unbearable if you are not on the same wavelength. If we live long enough, I imagine we all will feel or have felt both sides of a romantic ending. Those who choose to leave seem to feel more hurt while they are still in the relationship as nothing they do seems to change the dynamic that is causing the pain. Those that are left behind seem to report that they didn’t see it coming. They were asleep in the relationship and did not see the warning signs. The relationship was working for them however dysfunctional their partner viewed it to be. Admittedly, they don’t deal with change too well and find it hard to adjust and grow as the relationship must change to survive over time. They may be set in their ways, inflexible, or want what they want.
If we could only learn from nature where there is balance and order. The seasons change according to the weather. No greed or excess, balance. We humans have gotten lost along the way. We have too much of many things and we need very little. Yet, we take and take and take some more. If we could collectively only take what we require and live each day knowing we will be provided for as we are part of nature. No worrying which leads to manipulating our environment. Wanting what life wants. Accepting life as it is and being happy. Letting life unfold with all its wisdom and mysteries and being in the moment with no past and no future – only the now. Belief that we are immortal and that living in the present we learn our lessons as we are meant to until one day we are called to another plane where our souls will live on and all is well. No judgment of anything or anyone as each person does their best to participate in the moment. Realization that we are all equal and all living things are connected. Collectively living each of our lives until one day, we are all One. We are eternal. We are each beautiful with pure innocence and with potential to self-actualize until we are one with our highest self.
How can I help others to believe in our divine nature? I guess I can begin living as if nothing than the present moment exists. I can show empathy and gentleness in spite of what appears to be happening in the here and now. I can offer comfort and work with others to develop the skills to overcome their emotional scars that well up from within themselves. I can write about what I believe happens when we die to calm the fears of those still living that are left behind from their loved ones that have moved into their next phase. I can reassure them that they never really leave us and that they are there if we seek to communicate. We can feel their love in our hearts. We all have the power to stay connected regardless of the plane or path we are travelling.
Developing our intuitive skills and going within is part of our journey. Going through life awake, not sleep-walking is required. Looking at our naked inner selves without judging and with understanding and compassion is certainly helpful. We are human. We all have good qualities and not so admirable traits. Some things we can change; others we cannot. Learning where to do work and where to quietly accept who we are is essential. Being real and genuine as early and as often as possible is refreshing. Connecting on a deeper level adds intensity and passion to our lives. Loving in all ways brings joy and worth to our lives and being loved gives us confidence and stamina to continue authentically on our chosen paths. Giving unconditional love and support allows us a window to see and feel pure light and receiving it and feeling it helps us to know we are never alone.
Emotional pain is born when we do not know that we count and that we are loved regardless of outside circumstances. Emotional pain may be felt indefinitely until we can truly feel someone else’s love and that cannot happen until the shield and armor surrounding the heart is put aside. And that does not happen until we are ready to honestly face our fears and overcome them. Many fears we develop are in response to our past lives and the trick is to learn to be in the present and realize (or have faith) that fear is the absence of love. The paradox is when we feel all alone and reach out to another soul, our loneliness goes away. When we take the risk to let get of the illusion that we are alone, we connect more genuinely with others.