MS and Relationships: My Healing Spiritual Journey

FORWARD I knew from the start of my journey for great health and well-being that the initial diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis was a message. Well, maybe not just one message but many, I would find out. I knew this would be a spiritual journey to achieve such health. On every follow-up visit I made to the MS clinic I had this inner knowing that I was different. I knew there had to be others with the same attitude and positive outlook I was carrying with me but yet I was not being attracted to those circles of people. I obviously needed to do this on my own. I also know we are never alone, so when I say alone I mean without guidance from others who were also in my position; instead my direction came from spirit. Through spirit I was guided to people and professionals to help me make the changes I needed to make in my life. I saw a renowned Psychic Medium in Calgary Alberta on February 5, 2010. In my reading she expressed that I would write a book maybe two and at that time I had no inclination what so ever to write a book so this information was quite interesting to me. It was some time after that reading when I received a package in the mail from the MS Clinic in Calgary. I was filling out the information they were requesting to help them create a program to help those diagnosed with MS. On one of those forms I was given one line to explain what I thought would help the clinic be more supportive to those with MS. I found myself trying to fit my entire history, or more specifically my journey on one line. In that line I put down a lot of alternative health practices and doctors that have helped me along my way to health. I truly thought it was solely why I have made all the gains in my health. I was not crediting myself at all. I was crediting the health professionals. But it was in writing that one line that I was hit with the revelation that my journey required not just one line but an entire book. That was where the inspiration to write this book originated. It still took some time for me to process how this would look and what I would write. I would find myself walking around with a book in my head and not sure how to start. It would not be until I decided to go to the I Can Do It Vancouver in 2011 with my buddy Lori and made the decision after listening to Doreen Virtue to attend her sons Angel Practitioner course that I would start the process of writing. I flew to LA with my mother and in that course met someone who wrote a book and she decided as a gift to give people in the course a copy of it. When I read those pages I would find out that this woman was also inspired to write and advised the book The Artists Way to help start the writing process for beginners. I went out and bought that book and did all the required tasks which turned out to be a boot camp for beginning writers. Both books helped me a great deal to start the writing process to create what you are reading today. When I finally decided to pick up a pen and start my book I found that I was not writing about alternative health care Practitioners but rather my relationships with my family, friends, colleagues, and particularly my mother. I was rather puzzled writing and wondering why I wasn’t writing about what I thought were the reasons for my progress in health and well-being. However, I continued to write as I found that I could not control what would appear on the pages. What was the most surprising to me did not only include the relationships I had with family, friends, and colleagues but the relationship I had with myself. The progress I was and am making was attributed to the improved relationship I had with myself and most importantly how I learned to love myself. The Health care Professionals were just on the path of the yellow brick road, leading me to the cure from MS for myself. Yesterday I watched Oprah’s Master Class on OWN. She featured Dr. Gary Chapman and his book about Love Languages. He was mostly describing relationships with married couples. His theory was once you know your ‘love language’; you can better understand how your partner feels loved. Oprah completed the questionnaire on air to determine her own love language. Oprah’s profile indicated that her love language was Words of Affirmation. This meant that Oprah feels loved by her partner, Stedman, when he compliments her when she is dressed up and ready to go to the Oscars, for example. Oprah also needs to hear the words: “I love you” to feel loved. She encouraged her viewers to complete the questionnaire by accessing her website. When I used to watch the Oprah Show I remember Oprah showing us her home or at least one of them. In the tour I remember she had a passage of some kind framed on a wall as the words meant a great deal to her and I would guess made her feel loved. I was curious so I decided to complete the questionnaire myself. When I started they asked if you were married or single, which I filled out single. My profile determined my love language was Quality Time. This meant that ‘quality’, one on one time with my partner would make me feel loved. I would also feel loved when I would be engaged in great conversations of shared interests or walk together or travel together. This does not surprise me as my profession is in the field of Speech Pathology. I work with clients of all ages improving their communication skills. When I do work with my clients, for the most part it is one on one; one on one ‘quality time’. Speech Pathology is also a profession that improves communication skills of the individual. I’d like to think that I am a professional spending time with my clients engaged in great conversations. My clientele was for the most part children so these conversations were not all philosophical and on the topic of the meaning of life but rather the latest Disney movie, but then again I am a huge fan of Disney movies so they had my interest. I took this concept further. As this questionnaire was intended for married couples and I am single, I thought, what love language do you have for yourself? If my profile is Quality Time, then I love myself best when I have some quality alone time. I can show myself how much I love myself for who I am and how I cherish, adore, and honor myself. I know that when I sit in a warm bath, sit on my deck or curl up by the fire with a good book, or take a walk in nature, I feel like I love myself. I would learn a great deal more about what it meant to love myself through the relationships I held with my family, colleagues, friends, and many others who came into my life. As you read my story I hope you find the inspiration that I did to make the right changes that helped me to heal physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, not all necessarily in this order.