To Live in the Moment and Be at Peace Is
The Very Best Life Goal to Work On
It’s a coolish but sunny day here at Rye Harbour Park Homes Holiday Park. The Platinum Grade caravan I am staying in is “heaven sent”, with full central heating and double glazing, en-suite in the main bedroom plus a beautifully furnished kitchen with integrated appliances and top of the range hob and double oven. Literally home from home and offered at a bargain rate!
The site is adjacent to a beautiful nature reserve which affords a sense of peace, with walks out to the Rye estuary and harbour entrance. I recall a previous stay here with my husband during the turmoil we went through prior to getting married (see The Rocky Road of Naughty Neurons), when he had some challenges, His mental capacity was not compromised. We had come to have a chill-out and de-stress after being told a third time, that, due to a caveat being placed on our wedding, more evidence was needed.
This time I am here on my own to “tap into God’s peace and create”. You see, Brian went home to heaven recently – us, I believe there is a better pace for us when we leave our physical body – and I am taking a few days out to begin the journey of adapting to a new phase of my life that also has a great purpose to it.
The journey with my husband, although painful to watch, has been an amazing teacher, plus, generated a service to humanity, a ministry dedicated to helping Carers deal with those turbulent emotions that are part of watching someone you love travel the cruel journey of Alzheimer’s Disease or other form of Dementia (http://carerscoachingacademy.co.uk).
Get ready to share my journey through the late stages of Young Onset Alzheimer’s Disease; how I grew emotionally stronger and adapted to major change and finally gave my husband permission to step out of his physical body that, indeed, had not served him well for a number of years.
Once again you will learn how I dealt with circumstances and the ability to find inner peace in times of deep distress, stepping from being a victim to walking in victory.
During the late stages, it is like stepping on to an even greater roller coaster of emotions, however, if you have been able to, in any way, conquer the previous ones, the basic strategy will help with the pending emotional roller coaster.
Reflections and Moving On
Can you turn life’s experiences into something to help others? I heard a powerful speaker once say “If you are going through a difficult time, find a way to help someone else. It will gladden your heart and help you overcome”.
As I look back, I realise the amazing learning curve I have been going through. In spite of a successful nursing career, care management involving dementia patients, along with Master Coaching skills and a spiritual faith, I still had to deal my own emotions on the Alzheimer’s journey with my husband. I had to bring together all my other life experiences and what I had learned into play to generate a greater emotional balance. They were crucial to the rocky road of emotions that manifested.
In reality, anyone on their Dementia’s journey with a relative, is having a life experience that can be a learning and growing time or living as a victim to it. Becoming an emotional wreck without seeking to deal with the emotional roller coaster can definitely have an impact on physical health and wellbeing. Science can now conclusively show how our thoughts influence Brain tissue with a release of hormones and chemicals into the bloodstream that reek havoc in the body system functions.
For me, it became a choice to ride the emotional roller coaster in a way that would lead to greater emotional stability with an attitude that could generate a positive and calm response to life. It is still a work in progress and will be so until I decide to transition from my physical body. As I move on on my new pathway and calling, my desire is to help others from my own life schooling.
You too, as a Carer, have the opportunity, with effort, to either become victorious over your emotions, or to stay in emotional victimhood.
How do you do that you may ask? By facing up to the emotions as they rise up, seek out the trigger. Then you can create new ways to view what is happening. No, it is not an instant cure! However, as you succeed once and celebrate, you have a blueprint for future times.
Sylvia, in her third book, now shares the last stages of the Alzheimer's journey of her husband with you and her first year of moving on into a new life without his physical presence. It is interspersed with information to help carers with their own journey of emotional grief and loss. You will read how Sylvia lived her grieving journey with a determination to grieve positively. Everyone's grief journey is unique but there are some powerful tips to help readers in the day to day experience of grieving there loss.
About the Author
Sylvia brought to her Young Onset Alzheimer’s Journey with her husband, many of life’s up and downs emotional challenges that had been overcome, along with a wealth of background skills in nursing and care experience plus management skills, along with Accredited Master Coaching and a deep faith in God and Jesus. She had learned through the past challenges, that it is not what happens to us through life but how we respond and deal with what happens.
Suddenly, a carer herself now, it became very clear that she was not totally prepared for this part of the journey of life here on earth. That more lessons were to be learned, and then shared with others from her own experiences along the way.