Take Your Warrior Pose

I did a decade of fakery. I could write the book on it. I’m not saying I have all the answers or I know what you are destined to do with life if you decide to change your path. But I can talk about what I’ve seen, felt, done and achieved. If you continue down that path, ask yourself if you will ever really be HAPPY? Content? Satisfied? That feeling in the pit of your stomach every time your husband leaves the house that he’s finding solace in another woman that’s making you feel like you are losing your head. Is that a feeling you want to live with for life? Where will your sacrifices end? When will the happy ending start? Is the uncertainty enough to fuel your struggle? Or maybe that feeling when your friends post stuff on social media about their jobs and lives and you find yourself reminiscing about how your life was before you got married/into this relationship. Or maybe it’s the feeling of fear that one day you will run into your friends that you went to college with whilst you are out with your sister-in-law and will need to explain who they are, knowing they do not approve of them? Can you realistically keep living the life you have based on bleaching? I cannot answer that for you. No one can. For some of you, this reflection will lead to many conversations taking place. For some, it may cause friction. But you need to make that call—I cannot. How do you want to play this forward? Start afresh? Stand up for yourself? You do you. For those who have started to wallow in self-pity. Please stop. No, really…please stop that. You are achieving nothing. You picked up this book to do something about your life. THAT is amazing, so hang onto that thought. Yes, I know looking back on how many sacrifices you made and achieving nothing in return is torture for the soul. But if you were meant to look back THAT much, your head would be attached to look that way. Makes sense, right? Focus on moving forward rather than staying in the vicious circle of giving others your personal power. I may come across as uncompassionate. The reality is, I want you to be able to get to that stage in life where you can look back at your journey and see all the amazing moments you created by taking the steps to honour the real you and embrace your self-empowerment. There are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself. I cannot answer them for you. No one else can. If you rely on others to call your life shots, you are likely to be in a situation where others are holding the strings. There is a chance you may need to burn those strings in order to move forward and become empowered. FYI: I did warn you that this program was no pleasurable walk in the park. Ask yourself if you are prepared for a life of uncertainty where the path is designed by others for you to walk along. Yes? It may be that you are not ready to make changes to your life because sometimes we need to experience a few false starts to build up momentum to finally take flight. If you answered no…it’s time to continue forward. For those who feel the overwhelming feeling of sheer panic and fear about moving onto a route where you don’t know what’s coming up next, look at it like this…when you get on a plane, do you know how to get to your destination? No. But your pilot does—hurray! The truth is, the pilot cannot actually see your destination when they take off. He has restricted vision. Does that stop him from commencing the journey? Like hell it does. Vision aside, they do know where they are heading. They have their co-pilot, coordinates and their education, training and experience, which they trust to get you there. The pilot can see a certain part of the journey in front of him. But he completes that and continues until he gets to where it is you are going. The pilot holds the vision (your destination) and trusts the process (the coordinates, their experience, their training/qualifications) to get you there. There’s an element of self-belief in their work. I mean, I still cannot get my head around how those huge metal beasts (the planes) fly so elegantly in the sky. But these pilots believe in them. They get the science. We trust them and tag along. Your life is going to be pretty much the same. You need to hold the vision (a more empowered, confident, happy you) and trust the process (the path you are on that will reveal itself in small chunks). Be a pilot—take control and get to that beautiful destination. SIDE NOTE: I’m not promising you a picture-perfect life on the other side of this. But heck yeah, it’s going to be full of self-love, self-empowerment, and at times, the inkling you should have kept your opinion to yourself. What I am guiding you towards is a more satisfying life. More content. More motivational. Where you know what makes you happy. What makes you tick. A world where you can be you because your every move isn’t about keeping others happy. But if you know about the Law of Attraction (like attracts like), you will also know that if you get your life into order and start beaming out happy vibes, you WILL attract… HAPPY VIBES. -ends-