Life, Love and Loss
A journey of strength, resilience and discovery to undrerstand how my belief system had being sabotaging my life till I faced them head on and reinvented myself to be my true authentic self.
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I often justify my mood by thinking of someone who is worse off than myself, and I use the news clip the world saw of truck trailers lined up in New York outside hospitals and morgues where there was no room for the deceased victims of COVID-19 upon the first wave of COVID deaths. Those bodies were placed in this kind of storage with failing refrigeration. To the families of these loved ones in those trailers, I cannot even possibly understand how they have managed to survive this extremely mentally stressful event, the trauma, and the grief of not being able to give your family member a dignified end of life, must cause immense stress on their own mental health. So, these are the type of people whom I think of when I am feeling frustrated and angry, as I have moved through my own stages of grief. The one simple thought in mind about my own loved ones who have passed, was at least they were laid to rest in a dignified manner, and they had a family member beside them in their final moments. As the days went by and my grief was becoming more manageable, I was receiving comments about how I had such a great attitude over Alex's death with the inability to be there for his final days. I started to reflect on what thoughts I had been focusing on and how I had managed to maintain my purpose and stick to my routine. I can honestly say it was those ‘real’ conversations I had had with Alex about the “after time” as he put it, he had made me promise to walk, eat properly and be strong. So, I drag myself out of the house most mornings and walked 4 km from my home to the local dam and back. I turned to some great teachings on the stages of grief and accepted my feelings, but I really had no one to sit with to talk about my grief, I had myself and I still talk to Alex on my long drives home at night after my night shifts. If people on the motorway could only see my face, they would have seen tears streaming down my cheeks as I told Alex how much I missed him.
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Katy tells the story of her family and relationships throughout her life and how the love of her family meant everything to her. She has suffered enormous pain and grief that took her downward into a life of addiction, sadness, and dysfunction to protect and support her daughter. This story is about how Katy pulled herself out of the depths of grief and moved forward, leaving behind the negative, distorted beliefs which her father had embedded in her mind about her, and she discovered her inner strength in working through her painful grief of three miscarriages, deaths of close friends, and then the death of her beloved Alex. Katy tells of the lessons she has learned along the way and the people who have inspired her and supported her to be the amazing woman she is today. Katy's story, from living in Morocco and almost dying at the hands of her mother-in-law, to supporting her close friend dying of Hep C, kidney failure and dialysis, and now inspirationally working with many people as a Cognitive Behavior Therapist and Empowerment Coach and Public Speaker, to help individuals find fulfillment in their own lives.
About the Author
Katy is a single mature woman who has been married three times and lived in many countries where she has had to rebuild her life over and over again. Katy is a mother of an adult daughter and grand mother to four children, three boys and one girl. for many years Katy's friends and family encouraged her to write her story but nothing ever came about until her partner inspired her to wrtie this book as he was dying of stage 4 cancer. It only takes one person to be the guiding light and before his own light faded away he gave her the strength to believe in herself and write her story.