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YOU ARE…Forgiving Forgiveness is a very personal thing. It’s not often spoken of and if you do speak of forgiving someone WHO has hurt you, well, it sure feels as if you are letting them off the hook for their treatment towards you. I mean why forgive when it hurt so damn much or ruined your life, right? I’ll tell you why! So, you can get on with your life now; yes, you are the reason why forgiveness needs to take place. It has nothing to do with them. They will never know that you made a choice to move on, but WHAT you deserve is inner peace. And the only way to be peaceful requires you to move on, and into forgiveness. WHAT is it going to take for you to forgive? Being on your deathbed, having regrets, wishing that if you let go and lived for the now, knowing only now that you can’t take back precious time? WHO is being affected here right and now? Is it you? Is it them? Because chances are, they don’t bat an eyelid and are living their life. Or are you still replaying WHAT happened? Absolutely, you are entitled to feel angry, sad, destroyed, but each time you don’t forgive them you are giving them more power, energy speaking. WHAT continues, continues. When you keep the traumatic event on replay this is also an aspect of the ego, trying to keep you from being peaceful and healed. So, in fact, you are creating a double whammy of pain, stating that you are right, and they are wrong. A wise friend once said to me, “There are no right or wrongs in the world, there just is.” WHAT if what happened to you just is. Are you now ready to make peace with them and yourself? HOW they treated you has is no indication of WHO you are. WHO is the awesome person before that awful event happened? Can you allow yourself to be open to remembering how great you are? Sure, you can. If you can’t remember, then WHO knows you well that can remind you? Remember, the person who hurt you, it’s their issue and you just so happened to be their victim. But victims can elevate to become warriors, if they choose. WHAT do you choose for yourself? Can you possibly love yourself above and beyond what happened? WHO is more important at this very moment? You or them? You are! Got it! TRY THIS… To start the forgiveness process, which may take a few times of repetition especially if the wound is very deep, I’d recommend the following. When you think of good and bad, evil and angelic what do you envision? Now place yourself as the good or angelic, then envision the perpetrator as the bad, evil person. Imagine a scene where the two of you are engaged in a battle. You can dictate this out loud like a play or write it on paper, even record it on your mobile and watch/listen to it back. Be elaborate in your details, from costumes, setting and makeup. This is your brief montage to act out exactly as you like, with as much or as little detail as you like. Now begin the dialogue first, talking, yelling, expressing, swearing, venting. I give you permission to let loose! Tell them HOW you feel, HOW they violated you, HOW they abused you, HOW boundaries and lack of respect were taken away, etc. Then you commence a battle scene. Are you sword fighting, having a cat fight, boxing in the ring? Ok now halfway into the battle – stop! You are causing a disruption to the energy thus halting it from continuing. By stopping the fight, you are taking back control and your power, as well as your life. As you stop see yourself standing still, hands out front signifying surrendering. No, you aren’t giving up, you are ceasing all connection to them. Then look directly in the eyes of the person who harmed you. If you look directly into their left eye (their soul) this will have a greater result. As you do so tell them you forgive them or try this statement, “I am willing to forgive you. I’m not saying it’s ok HOW you treated me, but my health and peace of mind is more important that holding onto this hate. I am sorry if I have harmed you in any way that I may not be aware of, please forgive me. I choose to forgive you now and forever more; you are free to leave. Thank you.” Say it once or many times, also communicate anything else fitting, but make peace here. If you are feeling extra brave and confident you may wish to hug them energetically, as your hug of love and light will assist the process. If you don’t want to then don’t. Then I want you to turn your back on them and walk away. If you have weapons throw them to the floor and imagine seeing the perpetrator melt away. You should feel relieved after this process and possibly exhausted. If so, take some time to nourish your soul and body, recognising the great work you have done. All is forgiven now, breathe freely darling. Repeat as needed until you reach a place where you feel numb to WHAT happened to you. Reaching the state of nothing means you have completed the healing process.