Unwinding the Divine Masculine

Introduction A Journey Into the Awakening Masculine Heart The masculine stereotype has shifted over the years. I grew up in a rural farming community and in this area men worked hard from dawn to dusk. My granddad and dad were mixed grain and cattle farmers. These were the two men that were my role models introducing the masculine energy into my life. I have very fond memories of Granddad Dave Silver. I would sit for hours, as he would share stories of coming over to Canada from Scotland as a young boy with his family. He was a hard working man with an open heart. I remember when one of my uncle’s was dying from AIDS back in 1988 Granddad had a huge stack of photocopied papers on his side table by his arm chair in the living room. I asked him what all of those papers were for? He replied, “well I need to educate myself on what exactly this disease is that is killing my son.” I was so proud to know that he wasn’t too proud to educate himself on whatever he needed to. My fondest memories of my Granddad were walking out to the garage where he would sit at his lath and create beautiful clocks from many different types of wood. I would join him out there and he would show me what he was making and then he would ask me about my life. When I was in high school I would tell him about my troubles with boys and relationships. He would listen and sometimes give me advice but mostly just listen and let me cry sometimes. On Friday nights I would walk over to my grandparent’s house, which was only a few steps away from the house that I was raised in on the family farm. I would knock on the door and walk up into the family room where my grandparent’s were usually watching a hockey game. As soon as I would sit down they would shut off the television. I would always say to granddad you don’t have to shut off the television and he would say yes I do, as nothing is more important than talking to those who mean something to you. Side note; remember the personal connection is something that your kids will remember down the road. It’s been 31 years and I still remember the impact of being present in my grandparent’s connection. They will remember when you make time for them and are present. We would talk for hours sometimes surface but mostly deep talking about life and why things were the way they were from each of our perspectives. My granddad would go deep in conversation with me. This is where I learned that it was safe to talk deeply about my feelings and to understand why family dynamics were the way that they were sometimes. I have always felt comfortable talking to men deeply and this stems from the sacred relationship with my Granddad. When Stephen, my first husband asked me to marry him my Granddad was over the moon because he was delighted that I would be marrying a cattle rancher who’s grandfather also liked a glass of good scotch. I wanted to keep my maiden surname and then add on my husband to be’s surname. My granddad said to me, why would you do this? I said because don’t you think that Silver is a good name? He answered with a smirk and said well yes I can’t disagree with you on that one. I said granddad my surname is important to me and I also want my future kids to have the name Silver as part of their middle names to remember both sides of the families. In the end I also mentioned to granddad that it was the ‘thing’ to do now. He laughed and said okay I understand. He was always willing to listen to the newest idea and then sit with it before he came to his own opinion. I loved this about him. I feel so grateful to have had such loving grandparent’s live so close to me growing up. I remember my grandma calling me one day when I was about 30 years old telling me that granddad had some heart troubles and was in the CCU at the Red Deer Hospital. I immediately got in the car and drove to see him. When I was able to see him the first words from his mouth were, “ So this is what I had to do to get a pretty girl like you to come and see her Granddad.” He always made me smile no matter what was going on his world. This was the beginning of those deep masculine roots for me to feel safe sharing deeply with the masculine in my life. The beginning of the masculine heart connection. Trust that those beginning relationships with the opposite sex have a profound effect on future relationships with those around us. Don’t take those moments for granted as they foster health. My dad Neil Silver is a hard working family man. He dedicated many hours to his family, his community and his work. He has a gentle heart. I remember being about 10 years old and I was having pain in my chest area. I was very fearful that I was having a heart attack. I finally worked up the courage to share with my mom that I was having this chest pain and she laughed at me and said, “Honey I promise you that you aren’t having a heart attack.” The pain didn’t stop and I didn’t want to tell her again so I waited until my dad came inside from his farm work. He sat on the couch beside me and said what is going on with your heart? I said I feel like I am having a heart attack. He calmly told me that at my age this was highly unlikely. I trusted him and this reassurance put me at ease. Looking back I now understand that it was most likely anxiety from hormones of being a preteen and being highly empathic. My mom was the disciplinarian when I was growing up. I remember wanting to rebel and stay out past my curfew. So one night I was determined to do just that! What happened was I fell asleep at my boyfriend’s house and woke up at 5:00 am. I was not so brave at this time to be driving home and facing my mother. When I tried to sneak in at 5:30 am I was met by my dad putting his chore clothes on to go outside and check the cows that were calving. He said to me isn’t it a little late to be coming home? I said I know I fell asleep. He didn’t give me a hard time but just quietly but firmly let me know that I shouldn’t disrespect my curfew again. He has a gentle yet firm way of letting you know when you had done something out of respect and integrity. I appreciate this about my dad to this day. He has been my rock supporting me through the unwinding of my 21-year marriage through divorce. There is nothing like a solid masculine energy to bounce off ideas or a shoulder to cry on. The lineage of the deep roots of communication came from my Granddad Dave flowing down into my dad Neil. We must always remember to do the thing that feels best in our hearts and to have compassion, patience and unconditional love for others as it does feed the lineage. The old patriarchal ways of connection, creation and being are unwinding thread by thread one soul at a time. As the light enters each man they discover the inner awareness that the divine feminine has always known. The women will begin to awaken the new divine masculine within and we will co-create a new heart based foundational life together as one collective. The old ways of segregating for control and power will no longer serve the highest greater collective and won’t be a vibrational match for many. As we shed the layers of this old segregation during the COVID-19 pandemic we no longer have the choice to live in an unconscious world. The gift will be the shift in priorities connected to the heart and passion. Old ways of exploiting energy will be shed into the Earth with no vibrational match in the DNA of the people.