My Perfect Husband’s Life
A Story of Love, Betrayal, and Forgiveness
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Sophia Satyana’s riveting memoir is the tale of one woman’s persistent quest for the truth and how she healed after the ultimate betrayal was uncovered. She thought she had the perfect husband. Financially, he worked hard at the same stable job for 37 years. Emotionally, he supported her by being eager to prepare her favorite dinner on the nights she was too tired, always made her feel safe and protected, never missed an opportunity to give her flowers, gifts, and cards, and always listened to her through life’s many ups and downs. Sexually, he had the most incredible ways of showing his love for her and to her. He was gentle, sincere, loving, compassionate, and patient. She always felt loved. Her friends, family, and co-workers thought she had the perfect husband, perfect marriage, and perfect life. And then, one cold, winter morning, it all ended. He died suddenly of a massive heart attack. This was the shock of Sophia’s life. It turned out that the real shock came after he died and everything she found out about her perfect husband. While Sophia thought that her perfect husband was dead and her perfect marriage done, she discovered so much more after he was gone: her life was one horrible, awful lie. The shock and trauma of this realization was earth shattering to put it mildly. The worst part was that no one believed her once she started to uncover the truth of her husband. On one of the darkest days of her life—the reception after her husband’s funeral—the light illuminated her situation for the first time. When her husband’s female co-worker carelessly flung a few cryptic words at her, it dawned on Sophia that this woman knew far more about Sophia’s husband, her home, and her life than a mere co-worker should. That set Sophia on her path as a detective, the Sherlock Holmes heroine of her own life. Because her husband had carefully hidden any trace of his activities or the money he spent on his mistress, his substance abuse, and his sexual addictions, Sophia had to hire a computer security expert and work with detectives to unravel the extent of her husband’s carefully woven tapestry of lies. How she ultimately found the truth is a primer for anyone in a relationship. She writes intelligently about how you can detect adultery and more importantly, how you can heal from its devastating effects. This is a riveting story of love and loss, of trust betrayed, of light and dark energies, all at play in a seemingly perfect and happy marriage. It is a story about healing the dark night of the soul that happens when your heart and soul have been shattered. Sophia details in her story everything she found out about her husband’s secret life and how this all played out. She soon realized there were subtle signs along the way she ignored because she totally trust her husband more than herself. After all, they knew each other for 35 years, how could she not know him? The secret life reveals itself one thing at a time, each shocker greater than the last until she finally decides to stop. Enough was enough and no matter how much she found out, it would not change the story or what happened. Sophia realized after a year and a half of playing detective that she ultimately had to heal from this horrendous life event and move on with her life. So she decided to do just that. She set out on a path of self-healing that took her to places she didn’t yet know were possible. She unravels depths of fear, anxiety, resentment, anger, betrayal, and horror that she had never experienced or witnessed before. She experienced new depths of love, compassion, humility, forgiveness, wisdom, self reflection, and truth that she didn’t know were possible. Day by day she started to heal her broken self and life. It was the hardest thing she had ever had to do, but she did it one step at a time. She healed and learned what true forgiveness was, and unconditional love. She learned how to be at peace with what happened. Sophia realized the many gifts in this traumatic story through her self -realization and healing which she reveals in the second part of the book. She developed many wonderful virtues along the way of her healing path with this story. Sophia Satyana’s story is a true metaphor for “The Phoenix Rising”. This Phoenix has survived the fire, hell, and darkness. This Phoenix is emerging into a new existence, a new life, a new reality. It is gaining strength, wisdom, and courage each day. It have found the light, and it is now pouring down on her as this new Baby Phoenix in her grows each day. The mythical Phoenix has to perish in the flames to be reborn, and so did Sophia. At times, she still smells the smoldering flames. Like the Phoenix, she has shaken herself off. She is growing new stronger wings, bright with radiant colors. She is taking the time to nurture and love herself, to grow into an amazing Phoenix that will utilize its energy to soar into the highest clouds possible. Sophia is being reborn. This Phoenix has an inner resilience and tenacity that got her through. Though the argument came many times that she should give up, she did not. She made choices and started new. She has healed and grown beyond what she thought was possible. This Phoenix Bird, through the ashes of death is reborn again into a new shining bright light for this world.
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Author Sophia Satyana tells the true story of her husband’s sudden death at age fifty-six years old and the shocking story that unfolded of the secret life he had been living all along during their twenty-one year marriage. Part 1 is the story of how Sophia finds out about the secret life bit by bit. Unraveling the clues from emails and other computer findings, telephone and credit card records, and other important documents such as the deed to their home and the title to their car, a life insurance policy, and a suspicious, over-friendly co-worker reveal a less than perfect husband. Her husband had hidden a desperate sexual addiction, a deviant double personality, together with a six- year office affair, unknown and known debt, and more. His deception had been so complete that few in her circle would ever come to acknowledge the startling truth despite the mounting evidence to the contrary. Part 2: This part of the book is all about the healing that took place for Sophia to the depths of which she did not yet know were possible. “This is a riveting story of love and loss, of trust betrayed, of light and dark energies, all at play in a seemingly happy marriage. It is a story about healing the dark night of the soul that happens when your heart is shattered.” “My intent is to break the cycle of secrecy and addiction, and everything that comes with this. The first step is being able to look at yourself, your life, and your relationships with a clarity and truth that may not be easy or pleasant to look at, but in the end it does set you free. As the Phoenix burns and flames, it also rises from the ashes to new heights unseen and unknown.”
About the Author
Sophia Satyana, author, healer and teacher, resides in the beautiful high desert of the Southwest, USA. Nature, walks with her dogs, travel, reading, movies, gardening, art, music, and writing the healing manual for this book fill her days. Born and raised in a small town in the Midwest, she worked and put herself through the University of Wisconsin-Madison majoring in Art Education. After graduation she taught Art (Grades K-8) in an 'inner city' school in Phoenix, AZ for 11 years. Though Sophia loved the desert and mountains of the Southwest, she moved back to the Midwest to marry her husband and lived there until his recent death. Leaving her corporate management position in Customer Service, Sophia pursued the world of Energy Work and Healing. She is a certified Reiki Master Teacher, skilled in personal and distance healing, life coaching, and teaching others to empower themselves. The ThetaHealing® technique, and Teacher Certification trainings are at the core of her work. In 2010 she spent the summer in Idaho taking all offered teacher training classes with the founder of the ThetaHealing® technique, Vianna Stibal. Sophia holds a Certificate of Science in the ThetaHealing® technique. She would like her book, My Perfect Husband's Life to be an inspiration to all who face impossibly traumatic and life-changing situations in their relationships, finding the courage to heal and create a new life like the phoenix (book cover image), becoming radiant, sovereign and happy again. She walks you through, step by step in her book how she did exactly that.