Like your son and grandson, you also had many social situations that were problematic. As well as feeling invisible you often said you felt "stuck." Finally knowing about Asperger's provided some comfort. There was a label, it could be named and there were many like you and your son. Knowledge used wisely brings understanding. This explained the "thin skin," frustration and tantrums, habitual behaviours, dislike of any change and collection and constant re-arrangement of objects. I recall before you died you burst into tears because I moved a chair from one side of the room to another. You were bed-ridden and had no control over the environment. I had learned over the years to allow you full control over our household interiors and garden. For the most part I understood you. It was your Asperger's self, but it was never easy living with your obsessions.
Being with Asperger’s was inspired by Walter’s long-term partner, Lynette, and her discovery of a box of original cartoons, verses, and poetry in a wooden box in the attic. A tiny book entitled Walter’s Secret Diary was part of it. A quirky memoir, it takes the form of a posthumous conversation between Lynette with Walter, using what she calls bytes, interacting with images of Walter’s quirky, original cartoons and writing through which he processed his lifelong struggle with Asperger’s syndrome.
About the Author
Lynette Papp (MA. hons, PG Dip. Counselling) is a practising therapist in Auckland New Zealand. Her MA was in English Literature and prior to becoming a counsellor, Lynette was high school music and English teacher. Her thirty four year relationship with her partner, Walter, has given her valuable insights into the complexity of living life with Asperger's Syndrome. She wishes to share the reality of this with the many who deal with AS in their lives.