In 2012 there was a huge shift in my life. I moved to a new country with my two children to join my husband, who had moved a year before. The entire world around me for more than 30 years was completely changed and I landed in an unfamiliar and challenging new life. Until then, I didn’t realise how much I’d been pampered with familiar surroundings.
I grew up amidst an ethnic war where my only focus was survival. After going through medical education for long years, I ended up as a medical professional. The world around me was small – including my job, family and friends. I would spend most of my time at work or at home where I was busy with tasks and chores.
As a teenager, I was a voracious reader but after becoming a parent, I did not have time to read books. I cannot remember myself having big dreams or intentions, and I never wondered about unlimited potential. I simply ignored the connection with myself because I’ve always been focused on the outside world and career achievements.
I started exploring new possibilities in life when I felt completely lost in the new and unfamiliar place. Just then, the dreams I had been holding for a long time started to open up, one by one. I realised that I have been stuck in a cocoon for my whole life and I’d forgotten to fly out.
This discovery shook me to the core. I surrounded myself with self-help books and videos. I started connecting with my inner-self by spending more time focusing on me. Doubts and fears started to surface in the initial period of self-discovery and I would end up craving for more and more guidance. I was guided by the supreme power which opened up new paths for me whenever I felt stuck. I witnessed a magical transformation in my life. The change wasn't in material terms but rather in the state of my being, which became happier and unbound by the limitations of society.
I wanted to share my discovery of flying out of the cocoon with my dearest friends because I could now see how some of them were unconsciously holding themselves back from being open and unbound. I started a small group and began sharing the knowledge I had gathered by reading and practising the teachings of many wise teachers around the world. Teaching my friends about how they could open themselves up helped me formulate practical action plans for everyday life.
I started using my knowledge and experience to educate my patients, especially young women. I would end up having short discussions with them during the ward rounds. I wished I could spend more time with them and explain how their own limitations prevented them from their dreams and goals. I wanted to show them that flying is not far. I wanted them to experience the magical transformation of experiencing the best version of themselves. But I simply did not have enough time to spend with them in the busy setting of the hospital. This lack of time – combined with my goal of reaching others around the world – urged me to write this book.
Here I am now, presenting a collection of my experiences where I have learned the lesson of coming out of my cocoon. This book is written with the sole intention of reaching women, and also men, around the world, who have yet to make the move. I hope you take some time to go through this book, practice the action plans, and incorporate them into your daily life. I am sure you will witness the magical transformation of yourself, just as I have.
If you wrote down how you spend the first hour of each day and figured out how to improve that hour to create and establish momentum, how different would life be?
Chances are that one small change would pay big dividends, but that isn’t the only thing you can do to transform your life.
Pavany Arulliah shares simple steps to find paths that lead to beautiful places and ways to reach your full potential in this self-help guide.
Drawing on her experiences as a doctor and her efforts to transform her life, she seeks to answer questions such as:
• What can we do to eat healthy food, get enough sleep, and develop good exercise habits?
• After we decide who we are, how can we work toward being who we want to become?
• What benefits can we reap from being grateful?
• What can we do to change the way we talk to ourselves?
She also explores setting priorities, visualising the day, and tackling one task at a time to accomplish more than we ever thought possible.
Knock down the walls holding you back with the action steps and wisdom in Cocoon Dreams.
About the Author
Pavany Arulliah is a physician in general medicine. She received her primary and postgraduate degrees in Sri Lanka. She is a fellow of the Royal Australasian College of Physicians and practice as a physician in North Melbourne, Victoria. Pavany has a special interest in women’s wellness, and she embraces a holistic view in her clinical practice.