Dedication
We all have masculine and feminine energies within us for different uses. If you strip down all of your layers to your true core, and you would rather receive love than offer freedom, then you have a feminine heart. If at your core you are more drawn to freedom than love, you have a predominantly masculine heart and are awed and inspired by genuine feminine beauty and mystery.
I have written this book for both of you. For those with a feminine heart: to re-remember and embody your natural strengths and to enjoy a truly fulfilling and increasingly effortless way of life. For those of you drawn to the feminine: to more fully understand and know how to bring out the best in the feminine beings around you. This book is dedicated to you. You are, and no doubt have been, choosing a truly noble path that is at most times simple but not so easy. Once you re-remember and expand living your true heart-centered feminine potential, or encourage it in others, you may discover that there is nothing more powerful in this universe.
Introduction
True adj: in accordance with reality.
Rare beings that have come before us have discovered for themselves the big truths of the universe. Lately, more and more people are also encountering these truths in rare moments of awakening. I have also come to directly experience some moments of absolute truth in my life. Moments when time stood still; when I merged consciously with the biggest truth of what I am, what others are, and what life is. These were moments that could not be experienced through the mind or senses, only through my being. It is impossible to describe these occurrences with language because they are so far beyond the understanding of the mind. The closest I can get is that the true nature of myself, others and life, is infinite, and eternal, with no beginning and no end. Also all of existence is love, freedom and joy itself. But they are all combined, not separated as the words appear.
When experiencing this biggest picture of reality nothing is separate from anything else, all is intimately connected. It was a moment that connected me infinitely through and beyond this universe. I know for myself that I have always existed, will always exist and at the core of me I am love, freedom and absolute joy. It is never true love without freedom and joy, never true freedom without joy and love and never true joy without love and freedom! When I faced this truth from my own discovery, I had to ask myself – how could I live from this truth? How can my life be more in alignment with what I now most deeply know to be true? In the ten years that have followed my earliest awakenings I have been almost constantly working on integrating these big truths, and the smaller truths that have trickled out of them, into how I live my life in every area that I can. How to live from this oneness while operating within a universe of vibration, peaks and valleys, opposites and a mind hardwired with duality.
Feminine adj: having qualities or appearance traditionally associated with women.
I want to clarify that there are some men who have more of a genuine feminine centre and not all women are feminine at their authentic core, a small percentage are more masculine. To simplify the writing in this book I have used the words “men” and “women” to refer to predominantly masculine hearts and feminine hearts.
While I was discovering the big universal truths I was also having a vast awakening of my suppressed feminine side. After being a tomboy for as long as I could remember, and rejecting anything feminine, it was a big shock to discover that, under all of my layers of who I was trying to be, was my genuine feminine heart, longing to be loved. After living so much from my mind most of my life, I discovered that the heart is the true home of who I am, or “my soul” in the body.
It is a habit of mine to work really hard to turn my greatest weaknesses into my greatest strengths. With a lot of practice and breaking down many internal walls I began to live as much as possible from my previously unfamiliar, truly feminine heart. Like me, many women in the western world have an overdeveloped masculine side. Our culture is set up with twelve (or more) years of schooling from a masculine approach and women trying to prove that they can do anything that a man can do. This approach has had its time and place breaking us out of our previously narrow mould of what it was to be a woman. However, I see so many feminine beings trying to become more powerful by being more masculine which is very hard work and can come across, from us, as being heartless. How about coming from our natural feminine power? It is so much easier for us, is definitely a strong influence that the masculine doesn’t have, and can be way more fun!
I want to clarify that femininity is not feminism. There is a big difference. Early feminism was about women getting equal rights to men and during the 60’s more about women lifting each other up and broadening their opportunities. Femininity to me is about going within and re-remembering my heart’s natural way of being beyond any social or cultural influence.
As for equality, the only ways that all people are equal is that we all have souls, a human body and the Earth to live on under the warmth and light of the Sun. We breathe the same air, but beyond that, just about everything about us is slightly to much different. Yes, we should all have equal rights to feel, at minimum, respected. But the feminist movement has also caused us to focus away from our very different and powerful masculine and feminine attributes that motivate us at the very core or heart of who we are. If we can strengthen our hearts, put down our defenses and be on the same side together, we can lift each other up and create an ever-deepening and loving environment in which we can grow together.