Welcome to the world of little ones and their secret, poetic language. When a five-year-old adopted from China can express her lack of personal value non-verbally in play and name the feeling “the pile of none,” it may be time for adults to tune into children’s play and non-verbal communication on a deeper level.
The metaphorical language of very young children accurately reflects the story of their experiences and relationships, but it is too often dismissed by adults as merely child’s play. Parenting plans, weighty court decisions and child investigations that disregard the non-verbal testimony of children can contribute to bending a child’s development in the wrong direction damaging his or her life-long journey. Because of this miscommunication, children are often forced to spend time with the very people who hurt them and endure years of feeling invalidated, invisible, and powerless.
It is common knowledge that childhood stories shape adult lives. In transforming old, worn-out stories about one’s identity, the individual may discover how much happiness may be embraced by re-claiming one’s true identity. We the Children invites the reader to begin the process of becoming empowered by first transforming any story in which he or she is a victim into one in which the reader might emerge feeling fully empowered. Personal empowerment opens the imagination by converting negative messages about oneself learned in childhood into affirmations as to what is good about us now – ask yourself – what degree of freedom could be obtained?
#me too! If grown women have been empowered to overcome the fear of revealing their sexual abuse, what can a young child do about it? We tell them to tell a trusted adult. Sometimes they do. Sometimes they tell me. I tell the CPS worker or whoever takes that call. I write reports, go to court, speak up for the child! I guess it was really a long shot to write this book. To get people to understand that within the hidden language of some children is the truth of #me too. It seems the time is right to stand up and shout out for the children who cannot speak for themselves that #me too is real and our interview methods for young children need to be updated and revised so the truth can be revealed. Comprehending the absolute incomprehensibility of these life changing and secretive incidents in the lives of so many makes denial somewhat understandable but the time for denial has past. It is time for truth and healing. So be it. Victoria