Excerpts of a Love Affair 'from a male perspective'

Foreplay is a form of stimulation that intensifies the physical and mental pleasure of being in love. I want to redefine foreplay in this book as the energy that transports a couple to a metaphysical realm enabling them to experience the sublime. It is the art of saying “I love you” in a myriad of ways to experience a lifetime love affair. Foreplay should be reassuring. This requires confidence of never being betrayed in sharing your innermost thoughts. It is exposing yourself to vulnerability unafraid of being intentionally hurt. You genuinely love this person and know they truly love you. Foreplay is an investment. You must be 100% committed to a relationship for it to endure a lifetime. Patience, understanding, trust, and honesty are just a few of the qualities you must strive for in nurturing true love. Foreplay is unselfish. It is not about you, but about them. When sad or disheartened it is not that you must be there but rather want to be there for them. If there is a tear in their eye the Kleenex is already in your hand to wipe it away. When they are tired or stressed you cancel all plans and chill out with them. Foreplay is also selfish. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be appreciated and desired. Relationships are built on loving someone with the anticipation of being loved in return. Finding the perfect balance between being selfish and unselfish in your relationship demands being sensitive to one another’s feelings. If you stay focused you will know when to acquiesce and when to stand firm. Foreplay is remembering highlights of your relationship that left you in awe. Store those intimate moments to memory to savor the rest of your life. A treasure chest of pleasure from the past can be very inspirational in the future. Foreplay is going above and beyond. It is missing each other when apart and never wanting to let go when you are together. It is giving them gifts just because. It is whispering sweet nothings in their ear with every loving embrace. It is blowing them a kiss from the other room. It is giving them a seductive wink in a crowded room. It is falling asleep in their arms, exhausted from a long day. Foreplay is writing your own script. You decide how you want your love affair to progress. You both know what makes each other happy so there is no guessing involved. Make each other happy. Likewise, you know what makes each other angry, so proceed with caution. This book is an account of the foreplay I used in nurturing a lifelong love affair. It is a story of love and lessons learned along the way laced with poetry, written accounts of precious memories, love letters, and an outpouring of my feelings for the woman I love. Although not an expert when it comes to love I am a hopeless romantic. This story is a modern-day fairy tale where a prince met his princess and discovered what true love really is. If it reads as too fantastic to believe, then I have adequately conveyed how amazing falling in love is. From a male perspective of course! Words can caress the soul. The ultimate closeness attained in making love has an intoxicating effect as oxytocin levels rise. As the physical passion culminates lovers collapse into each other’s arms sharing ‘sweet nothings’ that induce a state of serenity. The intimate thoughts being whispered are an expression of how much they love each other. These are thoughts that often go unspoken due to some unfounded fear we all possess hindering one’s ability to share the very depths of their heart and soul. ‘Whispers In My Ear’ is a compilation of moments when we opened our hearts to each other and shared some of our innermost thoughts. Unclothed, naked in each other’s arms, we bared not only our bodies but our souls. The very essence of our love flowed eloquently from our lips in soft whispers that expressed the undying love we have for each other. Each word strung together in beautifully seductive prose that aroused feelings that sent shivers to the very core of our being. We were both reassured of the undeniable sanctity of our love. Bliss envelopes the entire act of making love. It begins to permeate the air from the first kiss. As the anticipation grows the words, ‘I love you’ start flowing as clothing is discarded and flesh meets flesh. Sexual intercourse ensues unable to control the passion of that moment. Within each other’s grasp your emotions are unrestrained as you exclaim, “I want you! I need you! I must have you!”. After succumbing to your desires, you lie there in the afterglow upon a sea of bliss. In between an occasional kiss the whispers continue to flow inspired by the intimacy just shared. In a subdued state of relaxation, you slowly drift off to sleep and the whispers become a faint breath barely distinguishable. When awakening from the brief slumber one last kiss is shared before resuming life versus love. Bits and pieces of the pillow talk are retained while other parts of the conversation drift away into the abyss of lost moments. There is no better environment to share your thoughts, wishes and dreams than within the security of your bedroom. Lying next to each other, with the still of the night diffusing your chaotic daytime nerves, calms the restless heart. Totally relaxed a soft caress ignites a burning fire and we partake in the pleasure of making love. Tremendous joy pours forth from our hearts as we absorb the bliss only two people in love can attain. Physically satisfied we begin to whisper ‘Sweet Nothings’ to each other that allows us to linger in the moment. These soft whispers act as a tender lullaby as we drift off to sleep, totally content that our love will last forever.