Breaking Through Loss

Introduction I never imagined that one day I would write a book, let alone decide that I had a whole series of books inside me. During the writing of my first autobiographical book for the Authentic Results Series (Breaking Through Loss: One Powerful Story, One Scientific Method), I witnessed some of Australia’s worst floods in history, an inland tsunami, and a Category 5 cyclone, not to mention the earthquakes that have hit Christchurch and then the great tsunami and knock-on nuclear disaster in Japan. It seems uncanny, and yet the message that hits home for me is that I have a very worthy story to tell which will be received by many of the people experiencing loss of some kind, and by those who feel they keep repeating the trauma of loss. The first 40 years of my life have been affected by repeated loss and perceived painful circumstances causing what felt like no end of sadness. I kept the lid tightly closed on all the pain, sadness and anger that I felt inside – after all, who wants to hear your emotional story? Isn’t it the ‘right’ thing to do to put a brave face on and realise that others have it worse? And yet, at times it doesn’t feel like the right thing to do. Well, in my 40 years of experience it is precisely the wrong thing to do and it sets you up for further grief until you allow yourself to experience the flow of the emotions. This is my story. It is personal and it takes all my energy and courage to reveal it to you. I would not do it normally but I do it because I had the pleasure of listening to a remarkable gentleman called Dr. John Demartini. Everything he said made total sense to me. It was like I had waited all my life to hear him. Everything he spoke of was true and the truth. For the first time in my life I felt awakened and wanting to know more about the truth. How can I say that? Well, once you discover the truth there is no turning back. My life suddenly made the most sense it had ever made. Imagine searching for decades, and then finally what you are looking for is revealed to you. It’s an amazing discovery and I want to share it with you. It may take me a little time but first you need to understand what has been happening in my life. This book will demonstrate beyond doubt that the Universe will encourage and then force you to address your issues, and until you do, the power and intensity will increase until you listen. Let me repeat that: My book will demonstrate beyond doubt that the Universe will force you to address your issues and until you do, the power and intensity of the challenges in your life will increase until you listen – and wake up to the presence of a power greater than yourself. I don’t make this statement lightly. I want you to dwell on it and allow the thought to etch in your mind. For if you should experience loss and feel you have dealt with it, and then some other tragedy or loss happens, I want you to remember and recall what I have said. This book and the Authentic Results Series will lead you back to the only scientific method of all that will allow you to truly and genuinely move on with your life. This book aims to enlighten people about the wonderful and relatively speedy method of self-discovery called The Demartini Method® - the tool with 1000 uses for empowering life. It can be used for loss and grief or for any other reoccurring human emotion or event that is running your life. You can free yourself up to live the life that you deserve. The Demartini Method® is the life’s work of Dr. John Demartini – a well-respected Human Behaviour Specialist, international best-selling Author of multiple books and a prolific Speaker who has developed a science to human behaviour. After discovering Dr J F Demartini’s profound and transformational body of work and experiencing the way in which the application of The Demartini Method® completely resolved my biggest life challenges in a matter of hours, I realised it was my purpose in life to offer support to people to help them resolve their unnecessary suffering. And yes, suffering is absolutely unnecessary. This book – Breaking Through Loss – is the first that shows deep loss and grief, recurring over a span of 40 years and then gives a real, authentic account of what happened after attending The Breakthrough Experience® with Dr J F Demartini. It also gives numerous accounts of the insights and wonders that continuing to apply the method brings – all of which were recorded during the writing of this book and can be found in the Appendix. In Chapter 12: Time For You To Love Loss, this book shows you exactly how you too can bring results to your own life and determine the life you want to live as opposed to feeling that events and outside circumstances are running your life. I am amazed at how much emotional pain the human being can tolerate – I have had a large dose of it over the years of my own life. I am not unique here: many people suffer in their emotions and many of them have different ways of handling their emotions and feeling of grief. I am respectful of those choices. For those who can no longer tolerate the impact of loss – then I am here to help them. It’s my personal mission to bring them forward with a leading edge and exciting tool that dissolves the issue of loss. It has the power to empower one’s life in one of seven key areas: spiritually, mentally, vocationally, financially, within the family, socially and physically. Put quite simply, this mission is my mission from God. It is my purpose and soul being, and I know in my heart it is the truth. I am rock-solid on this and cannot be moved. It feels wonderful and also liberating, to finally “come out” of my shell and speak out from the soul. This can sometimes take tremendous courage, and this book will unleash the same fire and courage from within you. I feel like I am heading home (at last) after a long journey that has spanned 40 years. It was not that I hadn’t sought any help or read any self-help books either; I had read plenty along the way. Somehow, some way the Universe wanted to get me to continue my journey all the way to Australia and search for answers that could explain my life’s apparent mishaps. I discovered The Demartini Method® and I knew instantly that my life would never be the same again. The Demartini Method® is a breakthrough discovery and cutting-edge personal transformation methodology which results in a new perspective and paradigm in thinking and feeling. It is the culmination of more than 40 years of research and studies by Dr J F Demartini in numerous disciplines including physics, philosophy, theology, metaphysics, psychology, astronomy, mathematics, neurology and physiology. The method can be applied to many situations and is for anyone who wants to overcome strong and dominant emotions over any life event. There are several ‘sides’ to The Demartini Method® and each one can be applied to dissolve different emotions in a range of circumstances. The primary sides of the method (which are being used in several countries on thousands of people worldwide) are Side A, Side B and Side C. This book will explore the power of Side C as it is relevant to dissolving loss and grief. The method may not be everyone’s ‘cup of tea’ but there is absolutely no denying that the scientific method works when you work it. This has been witnessed by many thousands and the numbers are growing. I truly believe that one day this method will be part of the education of our children.