The Uncherished Wife

So each one of us steps into life with a set of beliefs about relationships that we are told will bring us lasting happiness. Until ... it doesn’t. Very cerebral. So what got lost along the way? The small quiet voice within us did. Whether you call it the heart, God, Spirit, or intuition, it’s not cerebral. So this book will be a passageway back to where you once left that part of you behind. My dearest, you either were blatantly told to dismiss it, to not trust it, or it was implied that it doesn’t exist. The sad thing is that on my journey to find it again within myself, I found it was this voice I suppressed – especially in the big decisions in life, i.e. marriage. Of course this whis- per within would behoove us in all decisions in life, big or small, but most certainly in the life- altering ones! So my goal here is to help you rediscover this voice within as we navigate through the struggles of your most significant and important relationship in life: marriage. Why? Why is it so important to access that part of ourselves in this relationship? Because it without a shadow of doubt effects all other areas of your life and if we approach it too cerebrally, our heart will eventually catch up – and you will find yourself telling yourself some sort of story or lie to keep con- vincing yourself that you are happy. You see the mind is where the soul goes to hide from the heart. The mind can tell us whatever we need to hear to keep us from looking at the truth of our hearts. It takes courage, real courage to get 100 percent honest with our self. Not even 95 percent is good enough to be hard-core honest with ourselves. And I absolutely know you have the cour- age within you to get to that level of honesty with how you are feeling in your marriage and, more importantly, about yourself within the marriage. Trust me! I’ve been there ... it’ takes guts to face the truth of our hearts head on but by Design, we are more than given the tools to stand in front of that mirror and see reality. I was that confused woman who could not decipher what was true for me and what wasn’t – sitting in a dark hole without a compass. It’s a dark, heavy, scary place, but I am here to tell you there is a way to unveil the truth of your heart. I am honored to aid you on this exhilarating journey. Together, we’ll explore every woman’s desire to be cher- ished by her partner so much that she develops herself into finding her true purpose. It’s a very different way of looking at marriage than either the religious traditional model or the “each man for himself” modern style. I came to discover that I had that desire to be not only loved but cherished by my father and a husband, too. It was quite the process for me to discover that it was this missing piece in my soul that left me feeling crazy at times. And that it does not need to be this way. This is why I was compelled to write this book – so other women do not have to question themselves over and over and over and over when the “illusion” of the perfect husband still just “doesn’t feel right.” So they don’t have to keep feeling they are out of their mind for not being happy with the 4000 sq. ft. custom home, the vacations, the fur coat, the cars, upscale dinners, and vacations.As a professional in the field of personal development, I am consistently astonished how little people know about relationships but even more so about themselves! Many of my clients are very educated – professionals from doctors to engineers – and yet in the area of emotional needs they are near clueless! They are often so disconnected from themselves that when asked what they need or want in their marriage, they can’t pinpoint it, at least on an emotional level. I do not say this with judgment but more with sadness that people have such minimal insight or awareness on this topic. They seem to lack the ability to connect how a relationship that makes a person feel that they are not only loved, but cherished down to the core, can determine if they are surviving or thriving.