In this magical surrounding, I spent my days walking, socializing, volunteering, meditating in the gompa (Tibetan for meditation room), doing pujas (chanting ceremonies), sharing food afterwards, and just having a wonderful time. I met many people who were dedicated to spiritual evolvement, and were very serious about their practice. Again, there were several men who showed an interest in a relationship; who took me on moonlit walks to the beach and all-around did their best to get me to feel the spark they obviously felt.
Yet, during the months of June and July I still did not meet my soul mate. Something was always missing; the feeling of instant recognition, the irresistible pull, the deeper meaning. I did not expect my soul mate to be perfect—we are all human after all—but I knew deep down that I would know him when I met him. Sometimes it felt like driving at the speed of 180 mph and not being able to take an exit and turn away from the course that was mapped out. The conviction, the knowing, deep inside me was something I just could not escape or deny; even if I tried.
All relationships have a spiritual dimension and we learn from every relationship we have. Soul mates are not unique to a person; we each have several soul mates—people we have spent lifetimes with in close company; as brothers and sisters, husband and wife, or parent and child. Even a close family friend, a godfather or godmother, a cousin, a grandparent or a friend, mentor or associate we seem to just “get” can be a soul mate. Twin flames are different from soul mates in the fact that we each only have one Twin Flame—the other half of our soul—and as such a Twin Flame is unique to each of us.
Twin flames were created when the soul split into two poles, two modes of expression; male and female, or yin and yang. We are all on a journey to reunite with our Twin Flame and will not feel completely “whole” until we have found the other part of us.
To do this successfully, we are all on a journey back to Source; meaning that we are all on the path of enlightenment which will integrate all parts of us and make us whole in the Self, at which point we can reunite with our Twin Flame, who is on the same soul journey as we are.
We do not always incarnate (come into a body) at the same time as our Twin Flame. When this happens, they may guide us from non-physical and teach us lessons of soul growth from there. We also each have to experience both poles, both modes to be whole; so we each incarnate as both man and woman in different lives. The soul often has a tendency towards one mode of expression or the other, and will incarnate more frequently as a male or a female; if this is the case with you, you will feel it, but it does take both sides of the coin to be experienced for the Self to become whole.
Your Twin Flame will undergo separate lifetimes and experiences and hold different memories from you; so you will not be the same, as you might expect from the other half of your own soul. But your experiences will match and complement each other in wondrous and miraculous ways. It is important to develop the Self because your soul is like a gift to your soul mate or Twin Flame; whatever you bring to the relationship provides the platform to be built upon; or the garden to be tended. The state of your soul is the bouquet of flowers you bring to a relationship.
Exercise: Reflection on the Bouquet of the Soul
Think about the bouquet of flowers you bring to your Twin Flame. You have got to hold the vision, keep the faith, know that the universe is bringing you exactly what you are expecting and allowing into your experience. But you also have to be ready to meet your soul mate, or Twin Flame. Love is always a two way street. You cannot expect the other person to put in all the work. Your vibrations have to match to be attractive to each other. This works best if you both love something higher than each other—God, as expressed through your own soul, in your God Self. Only then can you truly grant each other the freedom necessary to grow and evolve.
Try to see yourself objectively. See the other person’s side. If you were in a relationship with yourself, what would you see?
Make a note of your strong points. Notice your weaker areas and resolve to work on the traits you do not want to add to your bouquet. Nobody expects you to be perfect but if the bouquet is to look fresh, beautiful and appealing, you need to work at it. Nobody else can “fix” you; or provide all that you need. Nobody can be with you day in, day out—lifetime after lifetime. This is your soul, and nobody else’s; you have been gifted with it to take good care of it, develop it and enjoy it. Make it a wonderful temple to rest in.